Welcome, MandalaTiger, and thanks to everyone above for such thoughtful replies. I agree with Nemia that the development of the relationship itself is the real answer, and JoyousGirl's point about resolving karmic ties really stuck with me. One practical tool I have found useful for soul mate questions, alongside a tarot reading, is the karmic tail from the 22 arcana system. It is three arcana calculated from your birth date that describe the core karmic lesson you carry into this life. Comparing two people's tails can be surprisingly illuminating. You can work out your own numbers with a free karmic tail calculator which is worth doing before a reading since it gives the cards a more personal context. Just treat it as one input among many rather than a verdict. As everyone here has said, the work of the relationship is still the relationship itself.

This looks like one lovely challenge. But why does it slumber so? I will meet it with the Visconti.

If you want to make a full study group with threads and things, you can request one here.... We are slowly transitioning all the old groups to the clubs, because they are more flexible to work with. Someone needs to put their name on it as the "owner" of the club and request it on that page above, but then anyone can post and join in and keep it going.