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	I've removed a lot of my previous posts. There was too much that wasn't Tarot-centered. I intend to make the whole blog center on Tarot and things related to it.
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	I welcome suggestions as to what readers would like to see here. And everyone can feel free to contribute to any topic, as well as ask questions.  
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]]></description><language>en</language><item><title>Two  Books for March</title><link>https://www.thetarotforum.com/blogs/entry/371-two-books-for-march/</link><description><![CDATA[<p>
	I'm creating a category I'm just calling "Books" because I really still love old-fashioned books that a person can hold in one's hands.  I haven't bought Tarot books much in a year or more but every so often I find one or two (or more) that really interest me. I found that when I belatedly got all excited about Bennebel's Holistic Tarot, I was a real late-comer so I might find that the ones I just got , everyone else has had since last year, but I'm going to do it anyway.  If anyone wants to post on the threads in this category, I'll be happy but if I'm posting about "old news" and it doesn't spark comments or chat about the books, that's okay too.  
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	For this month, I found two books that really intrigued me.   They're called:
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		The Modern Fortune Teller's Field Guide by Tom Benjamin
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		Tarot Tableau Revolution by Maria Alviz Hernando
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	The first one is really wonderful. I feel so much better now that I've started reading it.  For a very long time---in fact, since AT shut down, I haven't felt like I was a good fit for another forum but I really miss socializing and being a reader doing my "fortune telling" the way I've always done it.. Living up here in this very small RV park, and since I have considerable  health and mobility problems that keep me home and not very active anymore, socializing online is important to me.  Even though there were the newer ideas people were insisting had to be done by their preference of what "fortune telling" should and shouldn't be on AT there were plenty of other old style practitioners mixed in so I just didn't really feel out of place and I did my "thing" and didn't really pay that much attention. (I've often thought of myself as being oblivious to the obvious.)
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	This book is one I really recommend if you haven't read it yet and you like books.  Newer style readers of cards and other divination tools might find it interesting and us old style folks can learn and appreciate it a lot, too.  But the only little criticism I have about it is his swearing.  I don't think it's necessary but I still enjoy and look forward to reading the book.
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	.I think Daniel may have posted something to me about the second book when I was so excited about Tarot Tableau In Benebell's book.  I'm looking forward to seeing what Maria has to offer about this method in her book. 
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	 So there are my two books for this month.  Does anyone else have them?  
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]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">371</guid><pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2026 10:15:35 +0000</pubDate></item><item><title>More Gold Foil</title><link>https://www.thetarotforum.com/blogs/entry/340-more-gold-foil/</link><description><![CDATA[<p>
	I've been browsing the gold foil decks on Amazon. To my surprise I found that there are lots of them but they're all called Gold Foil so I just figured they were all the same.  I was wrong.  I've now ordered three more decks, all different patterns and trimmed with all different borders and backs.  These are spectacular decks so of course I'm collecting them now.  I can't help myself.  They're so mesmerizing that it's almost like they're alive.  
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	The cards are very slippery so you have to develop your workable shuffling tactics but once you get the hang of it they're nice to shuffle.  If you drop cards during a shuffle, you can just scoop them up any old which way and you'll have reversals.  
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	Speaking of reversals---I don't like just turning a section of cards upside down for reversals. Then you always have the same cards reversed.  I've decided to have the sitter draw
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	 cards from a fan, keeping all the cards face down. Once they've drawn their cards, then I'll have them draw X number more  from the first cards they've drawn, keeping the cards face down and those will be the reversals for that spread . Once the reading is finished, I'll put all the cards all upright again and shuffle a couple times and then put the cards away till the next reading.
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]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">340</guid><pubDate>Wed, 05 Nov 2025 19:54:36 +0000</pubDate></item><item><title>Gold Foil Tarot</title><link>https://www.thetarotforum.com/blogs/entry/328-gold-foil-tarot/</link><description><![CDATA[<p>
	I got this deck just out of curiosity more than anything a couple years ago.  I didn't expect to like it or use it.  I've never liked the RWS even though I did finally use it when I was learning.  And plastic?  OMG no!
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	But once I got it, I had an awakening.  Yes, plastic! Yes, gold foil!  I really like this deck!  It comes in a very sturdy little box that has a magnetic closure and will fit in pocket, purse or backpack.  It's heavenly to shuffle once you get used to it.  It's beautifully textured on both sides and on the side that's illustrated, it's really beautifully illustrated in color.  It's kind of holographic with a suggestion of 3D and then with beautiful texture in the background..  The cards are very sturdy and durable. You can let them fall on the floor and walk on them and they'll come up shining and dazzling.  You could do readings in a swimming pool---no problem. Let your toddler play with them---wipe them off and do a professional reading---again, no problem.
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	If you don't read with reversals, you might want to reconsider that.  You'll save yourself a lot of time reorganizing the cards back to upright positions if you just learn to use reversals..  Remember the old card joke "wanna play 52 card pickup?" and then the jokester would <strong><span style="color:#3498db;"><em>f</em></span><span style="color:#9b59b6;"><em>-l-l-l-b-b-b-r-r-r-p-p-p</em></span></strong><span style="color:#3498db;"> </span>the whole deck onto the floor and you got to pick up the 52 cards ?  Well, till you learn to shuffle this one, it's 78 card pickup sometimes.  
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	This deck would be great to keep in your pocket or purse if you're going to be reading in a public bar or psychic fair or other public space.  Spills won't phase it.  You can put the whole deck in the shower or bathtub with you if you want to.  In my opinion, I think every Tarot user should get one of these.  It's just $15 and change on Amazon so it's well worth the price.
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	This book is so interesting and full of information. I don't agree with everything but there's a lot of new (to me, anyway) stuff that I didn't know that will add to my store of knowledge that will eventually be there when I have occasion to need it.  Those are the kind of things that will just appear when into a reading.  The things you don't actually remember but that will float up from down deep when you're reading.
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	For anyone who doesn't know what I mean, I'll try to explain it.  
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	First of all, I clear my mind of any prejudices and snap judgments.  Those things are just pitfalls for every person, whether they think so or not.  There are just always some of those things that plague all of us, I think, because  nobody is perfect..  I take a few seconds or minutes to shut that stuff out and tune into the cards.  If I just started reading without that I'd be hearing my own "stuff" and passing that on.  It would just taint the reading with my opinions and prejudices. By clearing my mind of all that stuff, I can truly give a reading that's what the cards are saying not what I'm saying.  That's why I say if I add anything of my own experience, I always distinguish which is "me" and which is the cards. And it's when I've cleared my selfish stuff out, that's when the stuff that comes from what I learn from this book and elsewhere can "float up" and I can convey the message from the cards.
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	None of us is omniscient. We think we know something about another person, but we can't read their mind and we can't really, unfailingly know what they're thinking, what they're going to do, what their life has been before this---we just THINK we know.  That's our judgment---our opinion.  We can't know what their Higher Power has in mind for them or what they need to go through next or what they've already been through and how it affected them.  I can read their cards if I clear my own "stuff" out of the way before I read but that doesn't make me a special person.  It just makes me a person able to read cards.  
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]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">326</guid><pubDate>Thu, 02 Oct 2025 06:29:57 +0000</pubDate></item><item><title>Huh??? vs Well....Duh!</title><link>https://www.thetarotforum.com/blogs/entry/321-huh-vs-wellduh/</link><description><![CDATA[<p style="background-color:#ffffff;color:#3b4043;font-size:14px;">
	The added "clarifier" cards on top of a "piddled puddle" from a deck that's only been riffled a few times causes "gobbledygook".  Plunk that mess down in front of a reader who hasn't ever really learned card meanings and combinations  who wings it intuitively and you've got a "Huh????" reading.  But leave off the "clarifiers", make the spread from a truly randomized deck, go intuitive only after thoroughly knowing basic card and card combination meanings and you'll have a "Well--duh!" reading that practically dances off your tongue.
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	What do I mean by truly randomized? Well, I was frustrated when I'd riffle and riffle and riffle my deck only to find out I was pulling the same cards in the same order as a spread I had just done sometimes..  Not always but frequently enough that it bugged me.  So I started dealing out the deck into four or five piles after a reading, gathering them all up, putting them away, and then riffling them again before the next reading.  
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	I always randomize the deck after a reading is done and then put it away.  Then when I'm using it again, I riffle for the reading and for any other cards drawn for that particular reading.  Then when it's over, I randomize again and put the deck away,
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]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">321</guid><pubDate>Sat, 27 Sep 2025 20:21:01 +0000</pubDate></item><item><title>Why Couldn't I Find the Right Spread?</title><link>https://www.thetarotforum.com/blogs/entry/314-why-couldnt-i-find-the-right-spread/</link><description><![CDATA[<p>
	When I was new to Tarot<strong> </strong>and for years beyond, I couldn't find  "just the right" spread so I'd just look up a Celtic Cross or use three cards or seven cards or others I'd find here and there.  I couldn't seem to find just the right one that would cover all the questions I had about whatever it was that I wanted to consult the cards for.  Then, FINALLY it dawned on me that I could make my own spreads. I know...I know....I can hear you all now.  "DUH!" Well I've always been oblivious to the obvious.  I always just thought I had to do stuff the "right" way.  Since I was new, I thought people who wrote the books and created the cards knew how to make spreads but I didn't know how.
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	Well, guess what!  Now I know the secret and I make my own spreads for myself and for sitters.  No problem! And I'm even going to share my secret.  
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	All I had to do to get all my questions answered was just to ask each of my actual questions, give each of those questions a named position and then draw the cards. Presto!  There's the right spread!  It's also easy to help sitters find the right questions for their needs as well.  The more precise the questions the better.  
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	Of all Ciro's decks, this one is my absolute favorite.  Normally I don't care for oversized decks that my smaller arthritic hands can't comfortably riffle but this one, althoughst  oversized, isn't impossible to riffle so I'm telling myself that, with a lot of use, it will be just fine. If I never succeed in comfortably riffle-ing it, I'll just do something else, but this is MY deck, I love everything about it.  
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	The art work is just exquisite on every card as well as in the book.  The only criticism I might have is that I've had trouble making out which are the Majors but I'm figuring it out slowly but surely.  The cards are borderless and each card is just full of symbolism. 
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	In the back of the book, a spread called The Mystic Palette Spread.  There are two examples of readings done with that spread. 
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	I don't know if I'd suggest this deck for an absolute beginner to learn Tarot with. In my own experience, I tried with several themed decks and finally had to start with RWS, which I had always thought was very ugly and tried to avoid. However, once I gave up and just learned with RWS, then I finally managed to "get it" and now I can read with just about any deck.  I do heartily recommend this deck to anyone who has a pretty solid basis in Tarot and/or who intends to make it a permanent part of their life, or who just loves beautiful art.  
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]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">309</guid><pubDate>Sat, 20 Sep 2025 06:52:17 +0000</pubDate></item><item><title>Holistic Tarot by Benebell Wen</title><link>https://www.thetarotforum.com/blogs/entry/290-holistic-tarot-by-benebell-wen/</link><description><![CDATA[<p>
	I had no interest in buying this book when it first came out.  I read that Benebell didn't believe in predictive readings, but that's what I do so I felt that I probably wouldn't find the book to be of much use to me.  Besides that, my budget was beyond skinny---it was terminally skinny---so until now, I had just never given this book a second look.  Recently things with  my budget started rallying and I did buy the book.  In skimming through it, I realized that there's plenty of interest in it for me.  
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	One of the biggest things I noticed is that, although she says she doesn't use the cards to predict, she actually does. Many of her spreads have the position of "outcome".  That's definitely a future prediction.  And others state "probable outcome if current pathway is followed" (paraphrased) or words to that effect.  That means she does predict, so we have that in common. I respect her belief that the Tarot shouldn't be used predictively but I can and do still use it that way and, in my opinion, so does she.  
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	I also haven't ever used reversals, but this book has inspired me to reconsider that. I've always just included parts of my spreads that would indicate reversed meanings.  Now I'm excitedly looking forward to exploring reversals after all. I've been on this Tarot journey for a little over 20 years.  Who says an old dog can't learn new tricks?<span class="ipsEmoji">😁</span>
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	I thought it might be of interest to others who have the book (or who will buy it) to start this section of my blog.  I hope others will join in to comment on the sections as I work through them.  Maybe there will be some who want to go through the book chapter by chapter.  Are there any opinions or comments on this idea?
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]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">290</guid><pubDate>Sun, 10 Aug 2025 23:51:26 +0000</pubDate></item><item><title>A New Book (to me,, anyway) That Others May Like</title><link>https://www.thetarotforum.com/blogs/entry/284-a-new-book-to-me-anyway-that-others-may-like/</link><description><![CDATA[<p>
	I browse around on Amazon's Tarot listings sometimes and I've found a book I'm excited about.  I had just bought the Sacred India deck which is my newest deck and then I also ran across the book The Neuroscience of Tarot by Siddharth Ramakrishna and it's absolutely wonderful.  I've only skimmed it so far because I'm busy with getting my next house renovated and ready to move into as well as it being horribly hot every day. But even just skimming it, I can tell the book is going to be very exciting to read and work through. 
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	Has anyone else got this book and, if so, what do you think of it?  It seems there was a Tarot deck to go with it called Neuro Tarot but I haven't been able to find the deck. 
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	There are two authors I've recommended in various places before that I definitely respect and appreciate.  I recently bought two of their most recent books and I'm very, very pleased with what I've learned and what they've proven by years of scientific research.  Yep, I said "scientific" as in double blind studies and all that true scientific proof requires.  We're legit, folks.  Let me tell you about the authors and these books and why I'm so thrilled to bring this to you all.
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	First of all, Larry Dossey, MD is the author of a book called One Mind.  Quoting what's written on the back cover of the book:
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	"In the 20th century, we were introduced ro several subdivisions of the mind: the conscious, subconscious, preconscious and so on.  But what we didn't know was that there was another level of consciousness, an all-encompassing, infinite dimension of shared intelligence: the One Mind. This universal consciousness connects all of us through space and time.
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	Emerging studies have shown that the One Mind isn't just an idea; it's a reality. In this book, Larry Dossey shares compelling experiences and research that supports the One Mind concept, such as:
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	     Shared thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations wirh a distant individual
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	     Communication between humans and sentient nonhumans, such as pets
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	     Acquisition of previously unknown knowledge from a person who has died
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	     Hidden or lost objects found through mental means alone
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	     Direct contact with a transcendent domain through near-death experiences
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	Rev. Wayne Muller, who I'm not familiar with, wrote this on the back of the book, too, but I want to include his comments as well:
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	"The Buddha said: Isolation is the world's great misery.  In an increasingly complex world , we feel overwhelmed, discouraged, and more and more alone.  Dr. Larry Dossey, a gifted physician of the soul , relieves the agony of modern isolation. He reveals our deep connections to everything around us, to reassert our belonging with everything everywhere."
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	This book is absolutely awesome.  Worth every penny you pay for it and then some, in my opinion.  I can't recommend it highly enough and I'm going to read it again----and probably again and again.  I hope many of you will, too.  I got mine on Amazon.
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	The second book is by Dean Radin, PhD.  It's titled Real Magic and from the back of the book:
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	To quote just a little from his first page, he says "this is about REAL magic" and he says "Real magic falls into three categories......"  The first category he calls "force of will"and he says it's associated with spell-casting and other techniques meant to intentionally influence events or actions. 
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	First of all, just wondering about the question in general isn't going to give you any real information.  If you wonder about a situation in general and then just draw a few cards, trying to interpret them is like throwing an un-knapped piece of flint into a lake and then trying to figure out what the ripples are saying. It's going to be far more helpful by giving some deep thought to exactly what you want to know and then using named card positions and paying attention to the art work of the card.
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	The Sitter is wondering how a man she met is thinking about her after their first date.  He hasn't called her as he said he would.  She "piddles a puddle" by just randomly drawing 3 cards using the Universal Waite deck.  The cards drawn are 4 of Cups, 10 of Cups, and the World.  The 4 of Cups seems to her to say that she's the one offering a Cup to the man in question and he's ignoring it, but then the 10 of Cups she interprets as "happily ever after".  The World card she's just stumped by.  The first two cards seem to say two diffferent things to her. One says he's rejecting what she represents while the other she interprets as a long-term happy love and family life.
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	See how much more clearly the second example answers her wondering about him and why he hasn't called?  (I actually drew those cards from the Universal Waite to answer the imaginary question, by the way.)  So sharpen you Tarot arrow, don't piddle a puddle.
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	In my last post in the category of Tarot, I said that if a sitter asks for advice on how to improve a romantic relationship that I might personally think is undesirable but the cards give the suggestions to improve it, I give the sitters the information from the cards untinged by my own bias.  I think I should elaborate a little bit in case anyone has questions about why I do that.  The answer is really quite simple.
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	As we all go through our lives, we learn from everything we experience.  It all affects us in some way, even if it's only a smile from a passerby or stepping on a thumb tack barefoot.  We learn the lessons meant for us from every single thing.  My opinion of what my sitter should learn or what actions they should take based on my own personal life experience won't do them much good in most instances.  If they believe the information came from the cards and they follow it, the result might not work or might even be disastrous in their own situation.  
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	When I was new to reading, I felt really bad if the message I saw in the cards was something I knew would be bad news for the sitter.  There was a great temptation to slant the reading in a way I knew the sitter seemed anxious to hear.  Negative news needs to be  relayed honestly to the sitter, though, and it isn't fair that I not give them the information.  However, if I use compassion I can give the information in a way that isn't going to hit them in the gut but is still honest as to the message the cards show. It can be done with empathy and  learning to discipline ourselves to keep our personal opinions out of it.
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	I don't have a very good poker face.  People can usually "read me" by my facial expressions or body language pretty easily. I read others easily by those, too, even if they're just subtle clues. It took me awhile to actually understand the concept well enough that I truly took my own opinions out of the reading so they played no part in it and therefore wouldn't show in my face or body.  I had to give a lot of thought to the issue.  What I finally accepted was that my sitters were trusting me to give them information from the cards, not from me personally.  They came to me for answers for a couple of reasons.  One of those reasons might be because they faced negative reactions from friends and/or family and didn't want to face that again.  And/or they might have come to me because I'd read for them before and they knew my non-judgmental ways.  But the biggest reason I learned to take my personal opinions out of the reading was what I stated above----we all have life lessons to learn and it's not up to me to decide what lessons my sitter needs to learn or how they need to learn them.
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	Sometimes if I choose to share anything from my personal life experiences, I make sure my sitter knows this is coming from me and not from the cards.  But I don't use my own experiences to try to influence the sitter to my way of thinking.  I share with them to convey that they aren't the only one who has experienced what they're experiencing or that when I experienced something like that, it worked out well in the long run even though it was painful and distressing at the time. My aim is just to comfort and empathize with them.
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	There's a thread in the personal readings forum where I did give my own personal experience and I did hope to exert some influence, but in that kind of case, I do make exceptions.   And I did that because I could see clearly in the cards what the message was and I would have felt negligent if I didn't share my own experience.  
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	This question has been asked millions of times.  We've all seen the question on the various Tarot forums and chimed in with our answers as best we could.  Over the years, I've learned a lot about various aspects of "how it works" so I thought I'd share some of what I've learned and how I learned it in case it might interest some people.  I don't consider myself to have the answer for everyone but I can say how it works for me----or rather, how I work it and how I came to the point where now I can just relax, read, and trust that I've given my sitters the answers I was meant to give them without worrying about whether I'm doing it right or fearing I'm going to get it wrong and be told I'm out of my mind by a sitter.
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	To begin with, back in the '90's a friend of mine sent me the Jamie Sams Medicine Cards and I messed around those a little bit but then I decided to investigate Tarot. My original intent was that I needed another way to earn extra money because I was raising two grandchildren as a disabled widow and I was already working day and night to keep my inventory stocked, going to powwows to vend my wares, and tending the house, the kids, etc. so I didn't have time to branch out into paintings or making more stuff and it seemed to me that if I learned to tell fortunes by reading cards, that would be a good solution.  I figured maybe a month learning the card meanings and I'd have another way to earn a little more money.  
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	When I first began, I'd read in books "just put out your spread, open your mouth and start talking".  And I'd think "oh sure, just open my mouth and talk about what? I'm not gonna do that." I thought the author meant just open your mouth and rattle out some made up stuff or something. I was at the "this card means this and that card means that" and cramming like crazy trying to learn card meanings, buying every deck I could afford (and some I couldn't) that accessorized the image I had of myself or my lifestyle and afraid to read others for fear I'd forget the meanings, look stupid and be mortified. 
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	More experienced readers suggested learning from Rider Waite but I thought that was a godawful ugly deck and didn't suit me at all.  I decided I need the Ancestral Path deck because I was into Native American stufff.  I do bead and buckskin work and back then I was a powwow vendor so the Ancestral Path really appealed to me, plus I love the artwork on the deck and I'm also of English ancestry.  Anyway, after buying a bunch of decks that were not RW and getting nowhere, I finally bought the book called Tarot for Dummies and buckled down to business.  I found that it wasn't going to be just a month till I learned it all, though. Instead I found myself fascinated and devoted to all things Tarot and I'm still learning over 20 years later.
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	 I belonged to a huge forum that wasn't Tarot-related.  I wanted to try reading for others so I read for my cousin and his friends.  I did well---better than I thought I'd do so then I decided to offer readings for free on the forum I belonged to as a Christmas present for anyone who wanted a reading.  I recommend you never do something like that. <span class="ipsEmoji">😐</span> About 200 readings later, I was so exhausted!  But I got them all done, although I don't remember much about it except for how stressed I'd felt and how tired I was. Remember, I was new to Tarot and I had no idea that many people would even be interested in getting a reading.  I was a Pentecostal religion "escapee"---I thought most people would be afraid or critical and that I might not get many takers at all and might even be told I was Satanic or something.   I figured maybe a dozen or so would probably be a good turnout.  I reminded myself of a video I once saw on the news that was about a roach poison somebody invented.  I forget the specifics but it involved giving a female cockroach something that would attract male roaches and the deal was that it would kill them.  They turned the female loose and she went crawling along on her roach-ly way, unsuspecting of what was coming.  The stuff worked so well that this poor female got absolutely mobbed by literally hundreds of male roaches.  I suspect it surely killed the female whether it killed the males or not.  The last I saw of her she had been bowled over onto her back and disappeared under a huge pile of frantic male roaches.  Not that my former forum friends should be likened to roaches, mind you.  It's just my gallow's humor that kicked in about myself having been naive enough to volunteer free Tarot readings on that forum. 
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	Anyway, where was I?  Oh yeah----back to how it works for me and all that.
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	Now that I'm much older and wiser and have gotten lots and lots of reading experience, the way it works for me is that I just put out my spread, open my mouth and start talking. <span class="ipsEmoji">😂</span> How did I get here?  Well, I learned that it didn't matter if anyone considered me to be "accurate".  For one thing, no reader is ever, ever 100% accurate.  For another, I'll probably never see most of my sitters again to find out how my reading proved out for them anyway.  Therefore, even if my sitters declare I'm 100% wrong, I don't really worry about it because many of the sitters I've read for have told me that the cards were right when I've run into them again.  Some of them were sitters who flat out argued with me that there was no way this was right.  It isn't me----I just do my honest best to interpret the cards that come up. That means keeping my ego out of the reading and just being honest, empathetic, and non-judgmental in relaying the message.  I know that I can't sugar-coat a reading that may not be very pleasant, but I won't hit them in the face with it, either.  My goal is to provide a reading that's helpful and informative for my sitter that comes only from the information I see in the cards untinged with my own prejudices.  For example, if someone asks me about a love relationship they're in and their love interest is a jerk, in my own opinion, but they want to know how they can make the relationship work and I ask the cards that, but the cards that appear give the message telling the sitter what the sitter can do to try to improve the relationship, I won't tell the sitter a message I'd prefer for them to have telling them to kick the love interest to the curb. I give them the information I see in the cards.  I keep myself in the position of being what someone once termed as "a messenger from the Universe" or some such.  I don't remember the exact term they called themselves.
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	Now, about this "just open your mouth and start talking" thing----I've found that when I keep myself out of the way, relax and just look at the cards while relaying what comes to my mind, that's going to turn out to be that message from the cards that the sitter is supposed to hear.  In relaxing, keeping my own personal thoughts and prejudices out of the way, and then telling the sitter the thoughts (which are really not thoughts but whispers from the Universe) that I see in the cards I'm providing the service I'm meant to provide in the way I should be.  So that, for me, is what "just lay out the cards, open your mouth and start talking" means.  It means I'm not worrying about whether I'm going to be right or how the reader is going to like it or dislike it or what my personal opinion is, etc. etc.  I'm just letting it flow from the cards.  It's kind of like emptying my mind of everything concerning myself and my own thoughts.  I don't know if this makes sense to my readers, but I've explained it the very best I can.  I'll answer questions if I can if anyone wants to know something else.  
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