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The "Unwanted Attention" Interrogation Spread


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Many of us, from time-to-time, will encounter situations where we're receiving (or suspect that we may receive) unsolicited attention from someone we would rather not deal with (it could be an office Lothario or seductress, an internet troll, a high-pressure salesman, or any other nuisance type). This spread is designed to interrogate the cards about any such activities or suspicions.

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I can definitely see the usefulness in this spread. Is there a book out there with nothing but tarot/cartomancy spreads? If not, you should consider writing one, @Barleywine, seriously.

 

Sure could have used this spread when I was single, looking for love online --would have saved myself from so many unsolicited dic pics. 😳🧐

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5 minutes ago, 53rdspirit said:

I can definitely see the usefulness in this spread. Is there a book out there with nothing but tarot/cartomancy spreads? If not, you should consider writing one, @Barleywine, seriously.

 

Sure could have used this spread when I was single, looking for love online --would have saved myself from so many unsolicited dic pics. 😳🧐

There are in fact a few books with nothing but spreads, but I don't think they cover the subject in quite the same way I try to do. I've been encouraged to publish a spread book and even sent a draft off to a couple of publishers but never heard back. It looks like I would have to self-publish, and I just don't want to go to all the trouble. So I offer them for free on my blog.

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1 hour ago, 53rdspirit said:

I can definitely see the usefulness in this spread. Is there a book out there with nothing but tarot/cartomancy spreads? If not, you should consider writing one, @Barleywine, seriously.

 

Sure could have used this spread when I was single, looking for love online --would have saved myself from so many unsolicited dic pics. 😳🧐

I posted this link here recently in the COVID 19 thread, but doing it again because it's germane to what's happening here. https://revcheeks.tumblr.com/

I'm PROFOUNDLY grateful to be "a woman of a certain vintage." Yes, there was  good amount of random sex in my day. But we were raised to be housewives, even though the rules changed on us. Hence all the macrame and embroidering of blue jeans in an attempt to show how domestic we were.

The thing is, as Kelly Bundy famously said, "a woman decides in the first five minutes if you get sex or not." But after that should be a test phase. We decide if we actually LIKE you or not. You can still fail. There can still be some deal killer, like animal abuse or racism.

 

I'm not one of those decency wackjobs. But FFS, SLOW DOWN. Dating sites are gross AF. The whole current paradigm is gross. You don't owe THAT to anybody.

I'm normally not a fan of "a spread for every damn issue that arises." Ask a question and lay a line of cards. But this one may well be beneficial.

 



 

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PS - I loathe "quints". But that's OK, I'll make an exception in this case. 😄

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I tend to create spreads for topic areas rather than specific questions, but I have to admit that I have a bit of <ahem> "depth" in some areas, especially decision-making and problem-solving. I'm ambivalent about quints. I have a few specific spreads that make good use of them, but mostly I don't bother. I never use them with the Celtic Cross and seldom with similar large spreads because there are already enough cards to rely on. Apparently, according to Andy, they were used in French cartomancy with the tirage en croix, so there is some history behind them.

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51 minutes ago, katrinka said:

I posted this link here recently in the COVID 19 thread, but doing it again because it's germane to what's happening here. https://revcheeks.tumblr.com/
 

 



 

Yikes! They couldn't make this stuff up. I wonder what being locked down in their apartment or their parent's basement is going to do to these people. I mentioned to someone that it's going to force people into their own heads, which will be a novel experience for many.

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29 minutes ago, Barleywine said:

Yikes! They couldn't make this stuff up. I wonder what being locked down in their apartment or their parent's basement is going to do to these people. I mentioned to someone that it's going to force people into their own heads, which will be a novel experience for many.

Yep. Insanity, and Cheeto stains on the...well, you know.

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52 minutes ago, Barleywine said:

Apparently, according to Andy, they were used in French cartomancy with the tirage en croix, so there is some history behind them.

True, it's vital there. There are a (very)few spreads that call for that. https://chanahscards.wordpress.com/2014/09/23/lenormand-couples-spread/
I'm just snarking because a lot of people these days do quints every time they lay cards.
"OMG, single card draw. It's the Rider, #1, OMG double quint! WHAT DOES IT MEAN?" 😆

darkkittie099
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I swear Barleywine always has the best spreads! If you were to ever write a book, I would buy it ASAP. Definitely trying this one out. 

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On 4/8/2020 at 3:09 PM, darkkittie099 said:

I swear Barleywine always has the best spreads! If you were to ever write a book, I would buy it ASAP. Definitely trying this one out. 

Thanks! I'm off-again, on-again about writing a book. It's a lot of work to self-publish one (I got zero interest from metaphysical publishing houses, except for US Games who said "Nice, but we don't do books any more"). On another forum Caitlin Matthews mentioned that she got only 35 British pounds in her last royalty check despite the numerous books she's written. Plus, I create two or three new spreads a week, so it's a moving target. So I just give them away to the community on my blog.

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There IS amazon..... or Llewellyn or Schiffer.

 

But why not just put it as a pdf for download - easier to keep and refer to than a blog.

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54 minutes ago, gregory said:

There IS amazon..... or Llewellyn or Schiffer.

 

But why not just put it as a pdf for download - easier top keep and refer to than a blog.

"It" has become something of a multi-tentacled Leviathan that just keeps on growing. I had it all organized and PDF'd for publication over a year ago but I got lazy about keeping it up. Still, I could get it back to together and sell it on my blog as a download. Something to think of during "stay-at-home" time.

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That works for me. A pdf, NOT an ebook, please !

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7 minutes ago, gregory said:

That works for me. A pdf, NOT an ebook, please !

Certainly not! Formatting seems to get sketchy with those.

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On 4/2/2020 at 3:58 PM, Barleywine said:

Many of us, from time-to-time, will encounter situations where we're receiving (or suspect that we may receive) unsolicited attention from someone we would rather not deal with . . . This spread is designed to interrogate the cards about any such activities or suspicions.

I've held off responding to this, but it's still niggling at me, so I'm going to offer my view on this spread.

 

As someone who has been on the receiving end of unwanted and uninvited attention more than a few times, it would never occur to me to consult the cards about it.  I don't want to know what they want, I don't want to know anything about them.  If I've made it plain that I'm not interested and someone persists, I don't need to ask the cards what to do - I just report them to an authority.  In the past that has meant proactively telling my boss (resulting in the guy getting fired), to filing police reports (a few of those, unfortunately).  My actions resolved the situations immediately and the problematic people never bothered me again.  I'm not about to wait around to see what happens, nor to ask tarot cards what to do - I'm going to want to nip it in the bud ASAP.  I am not the type of person who does tarot readings every day or for everything happening in my life, but still, I have found that taking action right away to stop the attention is crucial.  I just had to say that.

 

 

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10 minutes ago, geoxena said:

I've held off responding to this, but it's still niggling at me, so I'm going to offer my view on this spread.

 

As someone who has been on the receiving end of unwanted and uninvited attention more than a few times, it would never occur to me to consult the cards about it.  I don't want to know what they want, I don't want to know anything about them.  If I've made it plain that I'm not interested and someone persists, I don't need to ask the cards what to do - I just report them to an authority.  In the past that has meant proactively telling my boss (resulting in the guy getting fired), to filing police reports (a few of those, unfortunately).  My actions resolved the situations immediately and the problematic people never bothered me again.  I'm not about to wait around to see what happens, nor to ask tarot cards what to do - I'm going to want to nip it in the bud ASAP.  I am not the type of person who does tarot readings every day or for everything happening in my life, but still, I have found that taking action right away to stop the attention is crucial.  I just had to say that.

Absolutely DO report stalkers, creepers, and rapey guys. Do NOT interact with them.
Recommended reading: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_of_Fear

But you can bet that if the police/HR didn't do anything to resolve the problem, I'd be pulling cards. I'd want to know how to avoid the person as much as possible. I'd want to know if I'd lose my job or get charged with assault when I tased him or gave him a face full of pepper spray. I'd want strategies. Maybe not this exact spread (it seems better suited to garden variety pesty people) but I'd pull cards.

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8 hours ago, katrinka said:

Absolutely DO report stalkers, creepers, and rapey guys. Do NOT interact with them.
Recommended reading: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_of_Fear

But you can bet that if the police/HR didn't do anything to resolve the problem, I'd be pulling cards. I'd want to know how to avoid the person as much as possible. I'd want to know if I'd lose my job or get charged with assault when I tased him or gave him a face full of pepper spray. I'd want strategies. Maybe not this exact spread (it seems better suited to garden variety pesty people) but I'd pull cards.

Yes, "garden variety." The idea was to use it before you get too deeply into a "situation," either when subtle overtures have been made or when you have a sneaking suspicion they might be forthcoming. (I don't think I would use it just to study someone from a distance since I have other exploratory spreads for that purpose.) If things then progress beyond the point of idle conversation despite your informed decision to avoid someone, it's time to take more rigorous action.

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