What techniques do you implement during a reading, so that you stay grounded in your message, and aren't influenced by you own personal feelings towards the persons question?

[Britt]

What techniques do you apply during a reading for another person, to remain present and objective in that reading, and ensure that your message isn’t influenced by any of your own personal bias or thoughts, that your message is the clearest message for that individual, for what THEY need to know, and not what you think they need to know? 

[Raggydoll]

I focus on the cards and look for verification of my interpretations in the cards themselves. The messages need to make sense as a whole. If the focus is on the cards; seeing the bigger picture and notice patterns etc., then it becomes natural to stay on topic. It’s also important to remind yourself of the actual question that was asked, so that you know that you’re not going off on a tangent. I’m not sure what else there is. I wouldn’t do a reading when I’m not in a good mind space, and I wouldn’t do a reading if I felt like I couldn’t be objective. That’s mostly just common sense for me. 

[katrinka]

I stick to the card essences. It's very simple, really. I don't fall into new age sugarcoating or making it all about some silly detail of the image. The 6 of Cups isn't about the guy walking away.
Death is death, and yes, it's not always literal, but something still dies, ends.

Our function is to learn the language of the cards and translate that.

[Britt]

Solid advice, thank you, Katrinka and Raggydoll, so basically focus on the task at hand, don’t get too caught up in the person that you are giving the reading too and their reaction, and establish boundaries. I’m fairly new to discussing the application aspect of tarot reading with others. As of now I’m learning to trust my knowledge of tarot and my connection to the craft. I always find that I have more to learn, and That’s what I love about tarot.

[stephanelli]

On 2/18/2022 at 4:49 PM, Britt said:

What techniques do you apply during a reading for another person, to remain present and objective in that reading, and ensure that your message isn’t influenced by any of your own personal bias or thoughts, that your message is the clearest message for that individual, for what THEY need to know, and not what you think they need to know? 

The most important thing for me is how I am feeling approaching the reading rather than during the reading.

 

I need to make sure I'm in the right mindset to rest for someone else, if I'm struggling emotionally that day I know I shouldn't be reading for someone else.

 

Also if it's a reading for someone you know, it can be hard to not just give them the advice you think that they need - don't let your emotions and feelings for them get in the way.

 

Remember you can say no to doing a reading.

 

If I've approached the reading correctly, I find I don't need to do anything extra during the reading beyond a few mindful breaths occasionally if I need a tiny break from whatever is being shown.

[gregory]

On 2/18/2022 at 5:55 PM, Britt said:

Solid advice, thank you, Katrinka and Raggydoll, so basically focus on the task at hand, don’t get too caught up in the person that you are giving the reading too and their reaction, and establish boundaries. I’m fairly new to discussing the application aspect of tarot reading with others. As of now I’m learning to trust my knowledge of tarot and my connection to the craft. I always find that I have more to learn, and That’s what I love about tarot.

 

Don't get AT ALL caught up in their stuff. This is the kind of reason I won't read for myself and avoid reading for friends or people whose situations I know about. Even if the message I am SURE I got from the cards is exactly what I would have told them if they'd just asked as a friend - I always feel I must have skewed it somehow.

 

It's also one reason I like reading on line way better than f2f. I can't see their reactions. I did read for a very close friend once (and on this occasion I wasn't sure what her position was; she was genuinely asking my advice on something I didn't know much about - it was a recent catastrophe for her) - but I did it on line and there was a week's silence; I really figured I'd blown it. When she got in touch she said she had started to cry as soon as she read the first card (and there were 7) - so the rest of the reading would have been really tough if I'd seen that.

Edited February 20, 2022 by gregory
needed para break !