Relationship/ Sexual spreads for beginners?

[kkaravaggio]

I have been doing tarot for a year but I am still learning. I haven't done a-lot of readings until recently because of a new relationship. Currently I just shuffle and whatever falls I take into account, I never know when to stop though. So I will have 10 cards on the table and be confused because I can't exactly interpret what's going on with so many cards. So what are simple spreads for newbies like me?

[gregory]

For one thing - before you start,, frame your question - and not a yes/no one. Make it very clear - and once you start to read, don't change the parameters.

 

Then decide what you want each position to represent. Are you looking at a past/present/future situation - in which case there are your three - and only three - cards. Are there problems or obstacles ? Maybe what's in my way/what's helping me/what am I missing ? SWOT - Strengths/weaknesses/opportunities

 

Then lay out as many cards as you need - one for each "issue". Three is a rather good starting point, IMNVHO.

[dippingin]

I'm a beginner but I find 3 cards not quite enough but the celtic cross of 10 cards is overwhelming. 

 

I like using 5 cards in the cross of truth spread.  

[gregory]

While I quite often read just one card. I never use the CC though - I'm with you there.

[DanielJUK]

Our old tarot forum has a wonderful spread archive, on this page linked are relationship spreads and sexual ones are down the page a bit, explore it all here

 

Personally, I think relationship and love topics need clear positions and a structure to be helpful. But most spreads in this topic have a lot of cards, they are often large spreads and we can see that in the archive spreads there.

I think just dealing ten cards without clearly defining their purpose in the reading is not helpful and gives you a lot of work trying to figure it out. Go with a spread. The suggestions here are just templates, so take a few positions from the spreads listed, that you think are helpful in your relationship situation and make your own spread! Go for 3 to 4 cards for a simpler spread. But you can make your own, make it work for you 🙂

[InnaSN]

It is very popular among beginners to use 3x3 spread "thoughts, feelings, intentions" of your love interst towards you. It is quite simple. Pulling more cards might be confusing. 

Personally, I try to read the cards not only per horizontal but per vertical as well.