Meeting a soulmate

[Mediolanum]

Hello all,

 

I recently joined an organization and, after only a month there, realized that I have a connection with one of my colleagues. I did a Lenormand reading last week, asking about this person. My deck screamed “SOULMATE!”. I have texted this person about this extraordinary connection, but they haven’t responded. Has anyone had a similar experience with a being they know is a soulmate, but who chooses not to engage?

[Raggydoll]

I think it is socially awkward to text someone you just met and tell them you’ve done a card reading and that you think they are your soulmate. Even if you don’t mention the reading, it’s enough to scare many people away. Maybe this individual doesn’t believe in soulmates or is in a committed relationship with someone else. How are they supposed to know what you are hoping for with this alleged soulmate connection? 

[Mediolanum]

I understand. I tried to talk to this person, and we were meant to have lunch together at work, but they canceled. And I felt that the news was so momentous that I had to share it one way or another. My reaching out was sincere. I was/ am so excited to know that I now work with one of my soulmates!
I know that this person is spiritual, because they told me so. And if I scared them away, then so be it. I said what I had to say, and I relayed what my cards simply confirmed. 

[Mediolanum]

16 minutes ago, Raggydoll said:

I think it is socially awkward to text someone you just met and tell them you’ve done a card reading and that you think they are your soulmate. Even if you don’t mention the reading, it’s enough to scare many people away. Maybe this individual doesn’t believe in soulmates or is in a committed relationship with someone else. How are they supposed to know what you are hoping for with this alleged soulmate connection? 

To me, a soulmate can be a parent/ sibling/ friend/ colleague, and not necessarily a lover, and I explained that in my message too. 

 

[Raggydoll]

I hear you, but I’m being honest with what I think. I think a soulmate connection is something that needs to be felt by both people, especially since the other person is spiritual too. If their instincts differ from yours then are they supposed to just ignore that and take your word for it? 
 

I think these topics are suited for face-to-face conversations where you can assess the other persons reaction and allow them to ask spontaneous questions. And I also think a months time typically isn’t enough for those type of big declarations. Even if you said that it needn’t be a romantic connection, imagine if this person has a partner and what that individual would feel if they heard that!  

[Mediolanum]

13 minutes ago, Raggydoll said:

I hear you, but I’m being honest with what I think. I think a soulmate connection is something that needs to be felt by both people, especially since the other person is spiritual too. If their instincts differ from yours then are they supposed to just ignore that and take your word for it? 
 

I think these topics are suited for face-to-face conversations where you can assess the other persons reaction and allow them to ask spontaneous questions. And I also think a months time typically isn’t enough for those type of big declarations. Even if you said that it needn’t be a romantic connection, imagine if this person has a partner and what that individual would feel if they heard that!  

I appreciate your feedback! I think that this person felt a connection before I did: they surprised me with the content of some texts that they sent me last week, before I did my reading. I would have said nothing had my cards not confirmed our connection. As far as timing, I beg to differ. We feel what we feel, when we feel it. Some connections are instantaneous. I was not trying to impose my views on this person, but simply to share them. 

[Raggydoll]

57 minutes ago, Mediolanum said:

As far as timing, I beg to differ. We feel what we feel, when we feel it. Some connections are instantaneous. 

I think it’s one thing to feel strong feelings early on, and another to declare them. It’s the second part that many feel is socially awkward. If you and this person aren’t like that, then that’s great. I am just saying that I think it’s possible that their behavior is due to them feeling it’s too much to take in, too soon. It’s a bit like with romantic relationships - both might feel that they have fallen for one another, but to actually say “I love you” is a big thing. The same goes for calling someone your best friend after a short time, even if it’s true!

[Mediolanum]

6 hours ago, Raggydoll said:

I think it’s one thing to feel strong feelings early on, and another to declare them. It’s the second part that many feel is socially awkward. If you and this person aren’t like that, then that’s great. I am just saying that I think it’s possible that their behavior is due to them feeling it’s too much to take in, too soon. It’s a bit like with romantic relationships - both might feel that they have fallen for one another, but to actually say “I love you” is a big thing. The same goes for calling someone your best friend after a short time, even if it’s true!

I get that. I listened to my soul and reached out. They will handle what I had to say as they will/ wish; I can’t control that. I did what I had to do… Thanks again for your input! We are all different and will react differently to the same event. The future will tell me either way…

[2dogs]

9 hours ago, Mediolanum said:

To me, a soulmate can be a parent/ sibling/ friend/ colleague, and not necessarily a lover

Oh I see. Perhaps “karmic connection” would be a less intense way of phrasing it.

[Raggydoll]

15 minutes ago, Serpentwand said:

Oh I see. Perhaps “karmic connection” would be a less intense way of phrasing it.

That is a good suggestion! It is more neutral because it doesn’t imply exclusivity; we can have many karmic connections and they can be expressed in different ways 🙂

[Mediolanum]

I actually used both terms in my text… I mentioned “a soulmate of mine”, then gave the example of being a “parent/sibling/friend/lover” in a past life, and meeting again in this life, and then later on in the text I talked of a “karmic connection”…

 

The truth here is that this person reached out energetically to me first; it was a few days before they said something that was a “Tower” moment for me, which suddenly made me realize our connection. Later on I did two Lenormand readings (so I was sure I wasn’t misreading the first one), and they both said the same thing: Soulmate.

I lived with that for about a week, but I’m not good at keeping secrets and had to share my discovery… my “soulmate/ karmic connection” suggested talking over lunch and then canceled. I know that they felt that energy as well, but have backed off because unable to handle the words I put out in the Universe and for them to hear.

As far as I am concerned, there is no pressure at all. I intend on leaving them be. As I told them: “Do with this information what you will”. 

Edited April 1, 2023 by Mediolanum

[Mediolanum]

2 hours ago, Serpentwand said:

Oh I see. Perhaps “karmic connection” would be a less intense way of phrasing it.

I actually used both terms in my text… I mentioned “a soulmate of mine”, then gave the example of being a “parent/sibling/friend/lover” in a past life, and meeting again in this life, and then later on in the text I talked of a “karmic connection”…

 

The truth here is that this person reached out energetically to me first; it was a few days before they said something that was a “Tower” moment for me, which suddenly made me realize our connection. Later on I did two Lenormand readings (so I was sure I wasn’t misreading the first one), and they both said the same thing: Soulmate.

I lived with that for about a week, but I’m not good at keeping secrets and had to share my discovery… my “soulmate/ karmic connection” suggested talking over lunch and then canceled. I know that they felt that energy as well, but have backed off because unable to handle the words I put out in the Universe and for them to hear.

As far as I am concerned, there is no pressure at all. I intend on leaving them be. As I told them: “Do with this information what you will”.

[Grandma]

15 hours ago, Mediolanum said:

I know that this person is spiritual, because they told me so.

"Spiritual" is one of those words that can mean different things to different people. I am spiritual - I live with the intention of being in constant awareness of Spirit within which I exist and of Spirit which exists within me. I do not believe in soulmates. I never did until recently, then I briefly did, but the experience was unhappy, and now I once again do not. My spirituality remained constant. Is your friend's definition of spiritual the same as yours? By the way, "soulmates" is another word that can mean different things to different people.

 

15 hours ago, Mediolanum said:

And if I scared them away, then so be it.

I'm curious as to this cavalier attitude towards someone you presumably want in your life.

 

3 hours ago, Mediolanum said:

later on in the text I talked of a “karmic connection”

I can't find where you said this. Am I just missing it?

 

Anyway, it occurs to me that all these observations we are sharing are not what you asked for in the first place. You asked specifically

16 hours ago, Mediolanum said:

Has anyone had a similar experience with a being they know is a soulmate, but who chooses not to engage?

and in my case, the answer is no.

Edited April 1, 2023 by Grandma

[gregory]

15 hours ago, Mediolanum said:

We feel what we feel, when we feel it.

 

Sure - but it isn't necessarily a good idea to share it instantly with someone we don't really know. I'd have waited a bit - and also would not have done something that "huge" by text. That feels rude, to be blunt.

 

Whatever cards did you pull ?

[Grandma]

12 minutes ago, gregory said:

Whatever cards did you pull ?

And what question did you ask? (I know almost nothing about Lenormand. I'm guessing that it involves asking a question.)

 

[Mediolanum]

34 minutes ago, Grandma said:

And what question did you ask? (I know almost nothing about Lenormand. I'm guessing that it involves asking a question.)

 

I asked my cards: “Talk to me about my connection with this person”.

[DanielJUK]

It's fine to post the question but this Spirituality area is not the right place to post a Lenormand reading or the cards. Let's keep the discussion about soulmate / karmic connections and how to handle them 😀

[Mediolanum]

1 hour ago, Grandma said:

"Spiritual" is one of those words that can mean different things to different people. I am spiritual - I live with the intention of being in constant awareness of Spirit within which I exist and of Spirit which exists within me. I do not believe in soulmates. I never did until recently, then I briefly did, but the experience was unhappy, and now I once again do not. My spirituality remained constant. Is your friend's definition of spiritual the same as yours? By the way, "soulmates" is another word that can mean different things to different people.

 

I'm curious as to this cavalier attitude towards someone you presumably want in your life.

 

I can't find where you said this. Am I just missing it?

 

Anyway, it occurs to me that all these observations we are sharing are not what you asked for in the first place. You asked specifically

and in my case, the answer is no.

You are absolutely right: my idea of what I consider to be spirituality isn’t necessarily the next person’s. I admit that I was clumsy but intended to do no wrong, quite the opposite. My purpose was to celebrate that connection and say hello. My understanding is that a soulmate/ karmic connection doesn’t necessarily mean that the other person is meant to be center stage in one’s life; they can simply be a colleague or a good friend, but that past life connection is still there.

 

I only gave a brief description of the exchange in my very first post without going into detail. In my text to my colleague, I did use “soulmate” and “karmic connection” and gave examples of past lives connections so there would be no misunderstanding…

[Mediolanum]

3 minutes ago, DanielJUK said:

It's fine to post the question but this Spirituality area is not the right place to post a Lenormand reading or the cards. Let's keep the discussion about soulmate / karmic connections and how to handle them 😀

Don’t worry, that was my intention. You will notice that I have not named the cards 😉

[Mediolanum]

5 hours ago, gregory said:

 

Sure - but it isn't necessarily a good idea to share it instantly with someone we don't really know. I'd have waited a bit - and also would not have done something that "huge" by text. That feels rude, to be blunt.

 

Whatever cards did you pull ?

I might have been clumsy, but I was not rude. 

[2dogs]

23 hours ago, Mediolanum said:

Has anyone had a similar experience with a being they know is a soulmate, but who chooses not to engage?

I haven’t experienced this but it’s intriguing. I wonder if they might have a less positive imprint from your previous association.

[Mediolanum]

1 hour ago, Serpentwand said:

I haven’t experienced this but it’s intriguing. I wonder if they might have a less positive imprint from your previous association.

Or currently living in a very “polluted” environment where they can’t see/ feel.

[gregory]

4 hours ago, Mediolanum said:

I might have been clumsy, but I was not rude. 

 

Giving important info by text is never polite except in an emergency - and this was hardly an emergency. Texting is well known as the rudest way to dump someone - and this is in a similar category - not to mention with dumping quite often one doesn't care what happens. This was supposed to be a positive thing, I imagine.

[Mediolanum]

8 hours ago, gregory said:

 

Giving important info by text is never polite except in an emergency - and this was hardly an emergency. Texting is well known as the rudest way to dump someone - and this is in a similar category - not to mention with dumping quite often one doesn't care what happens. This was supposed to be a positive thing, I imagine.

Your view - and you’re entitled to it. Not my view.

[Misterei]

This phrase "soulmate" means nothing. At this point it's become a marketing gimmick for hucksters.

 

Back in my day, we called it Love at First Sight (romantic) and there is never a question about it. I experienced this twice in my life and the other person felt it too. Both these connections became long-term relationships.

 

My first love ... we saw each other for a moment and cupids arrow hit ... never saw each other for 2 years ... then met again and connected. And we BOTH remembered that initial fleeting glimpse from 2 years past. He remembered the jeans I was wearing and the dogs I was walking -- everything.

 

Soulmates?

Souls incarnate in GROUPS. You can have hundreds of soul mates. It's a group of souls with whom you share karma. Big deal. So what.

 

The romantic version ... if it's real ... is love at first sight and both people know it. And you don't need to worry about it or obsess over it b/c it will happen. I didn't spend 2 years obsessing after seeing that boy on the crew working the fire break. We had the moment, we remembered, and we met again in 2 years when the time was right.

With my ex husband it was faster. Cupids arrow hit us both. We left with each others' phone numbers that very night and were together 14 years.

Edited April 2, 2023 by Misterei