EmpyreanKnight Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 Do you let other people touch your decks? Like do you let your curious friends go through the cards or do you only limit contact to querents? Or do you forbid absolutely everyone any kind of tactile access to your cards? I've read some beliefs on this, that a deck's bond with its owner diminishes when others touch it so that a few are unduly vigilant regarding this. If you do allow anyone, do you impose any limits? Like some people can be quite careless or heavy-handed when they shuffle, so some readers only allow them to cut and/or stack their deck. Others feel that querents can only truly imbue the cards with their energy if they shuffle them too, so they don't mind.
EmpyreanKnight Posted January 25, 2018 Author Posted January 25, 2018 I only let my sister touch mine when she was curious, but that's only because I'm very close to her. I'd never let anyone else do that except if I was reading for them. I'd shuffle the cards myself, but I'd let them cut and stack the deck. Even with that, there are a few decks I absolutely won't allow anyone any kind of access.
gregory Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 I let people touch mine, yes. Though not people with dirty hands or people who are only going to take the piss. I don't like others to shuffle them - but that's a damage issue. And there are a few decks I will not allow MOST people to touch just because of their fragility. And there are a couple of people in this world I wouldn't allow near them. That said, if it were avoidable, those are also people I wouldn't want in my house at all. I don't think it lessens a bond at all. And if people want to look at mine - well, I am in a position to kind of provide a study service here :D
Albadawn Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 I am one of those weirdos who hates having other people touch my cards ;D I don't particularly like people touching my belongings in general but especially not my cards. I feel like it takes ages to get another person's energy off them. I knew one grabby individual and took me about three goes of smoke cleansing to get rid of them, and then I had to top it up again by shuffling like a maniac for a couple of days. I realise how batty this sounds but I'm a big believer that people have different kinds of energy and I try to avoid getting mixed up too much. :-[
Flaxen Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 I'm fine with most people looking at most of my decks - my more expensive/rarer ones are hidden away from view and only a select few can touch those. My daughter likes to look at them but she is not yet careful enough so it's mass-market only and under strict supervision!
Saturn Celeste Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 I don't read for others in person so touch is not an issue. My son and his girl can play with my cards. They are both excellent tarot readers and my cards are for the family. Every card is blessed by me and the entire deck is blessed so I don't have any objections to my immediate family using my cards. If I do read for someone else I like them to cut the deck, they can't break anything that way! :-[
Lantana Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 I generally don’t, but it’s not so much an energy issue as a “hands off my stuff” sort of thing. I am an only child, after all. :P
Jewel Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 As long as the hands are clean I am OK with people I read for and friends to touch them, look through them, cut them. Shuffling no, as I do not want anyone damaging my cards. There are not a lot of people around my decks however, so it is always someone I know and consider a friend. I would not let anyone I disliked touch my cards, then again I would not be around them so it would not be a problem lol. I also tend to end up re-ordering my decks after someone else has touched them. When doing a reading for someone in person (I only read for myself and friends in person) I find it useful for them to add their energy to the deck. I usually have them hold it while they are formulating their question and then have them cut the deck. I do interactive readings so that seems to get the querent connected to the cards as well and more open to sharing what they see which makes for meaningful readings for them which is what it is all about for me.
sandrang123 Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 I let anyone who is sitting for me handle the cards. They shuffle and cut the deck. I like the deck to work with their energy, as well as mine. That said, I also cleanse cards between readings. I've let friends look at decks if they are interested in learning tarot or are just curious.
Albadawn Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 I generally don’t, but it’s not so much an energy issue as a “hands off my stuff” sort of thing. I am an only child, after all. :P This is interesting - I'm also "hands off" but I'm the opposite, I have five siblings when you count my step-brothers! So I had to share things a lot. It feels like a privilege to get to say no to someone touching something that's mine!
ldiddy Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 If I don't want someone touching a deck, I won't put it in front of them.... So, if I have a particularly valuable or fragile deck, I don't use it for readings for others (or even myself, ehhhhmmmm Greenwood). When I do readings, I usually shuffle, but encourage the querant to cut and choose cards. I agree it's nice to let them inject some of their own touch and energy into the process. In the end, cards are just cards and they're going to end up with some scuffs and dings as we use them.
Guest Empathic_Cap Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 I don't let anyone touch full stop. As this will require me to re cleanse the deck fully before using the deck without having unwanted energetic and feelings attach to taint future readings.
Saturn Celeste Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 In the end, cards are just cards and they're going to end up with some scuffs and dings as we use them. So very true! Welcome to TT&M Ididdy! When you have a minute stop by our introduction section so we can officially greet you! ;D
sandrang123 Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 The deck exists for other people, if you are a reader. No?
Lantana Posted January 26, 2018 Posted January 26, 2018 The deck exists for other people, if you are a reader. No? I feel like that depends on your perspective of how tarot readings work. To me, my readings are a collaboration between myself and the deck, so the thing that exists for other people is the words/knowledge/insight that come from that collaboration. Tarot is the tool, the reading is the result. I just perfer people to not touch my tools when I’m working, y’know?
tarottreat Posted January 26, 2018 Posted January 26, 2018 Big no for me. I've got some major problems with germs, and even if I had all my clients wash their hands first or something first I don't know if I could get over that. It's irrational but I still feel weird about it. I've let close friends look through my deck and touch it, but I would never let anyone else shuffle for sure. I'm very careful to avoid ever bending my cards, and other people generally don't avoid that.
Chiska Posted January 27, 2018 Posted January 27, 2018 If a person's hands are clean and they aren't sick, I don't care. I like used decks as well. I prefer them over new. My favorite decks are beat up, bent, and bedraggled! If they come with an old rubber band holding them together - that is even better. I have a deck that came like that.
Saturn Celeste Posted January 27, 2018 Posted January 27, 2018 If a person's hands are clean and they aren't sick, I don't care. I like used decks as well. I prefer them over new. My favorite decks are beat up, bent, and bedraggled! If they come with an old rubber band holding them together - that is even better. I have a deck that came like that. That is really open Chiska! One thing I've found in the tarot community really have some interesting takes on how they handle their decks! It's as diverse as the community.
faerybraids Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 I haven't had much chance to say yes or no to people handling them, but I do prefer to keep just my hands on them. But that's the same with most of my belongings--I don't like people touching my stuff without permission, and when something's as cherished as my decks are I'm even more protective. (I've learnt to be from experience...) That being said, if someone asks and I trust them, and they have clean hands, then I might let them just look through the cards, or better yet look through them with me. As it is, the only people I've really let do that are my sister, my partner and I think my mum? But I'm not sure I'd ever let them shuffle. I've also let them stack the deck when I've read for them, but for some reason it didn't feel right to let them cut. Hmmm. Dunno what I'm gonna do if I read for someone I don't know well. :/
jema Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 They would first have to get inside my front door (i am a recluse) But after that I am fine with it. Funny note though, try to say that they can touch them but the risk is theirs and then after a while say BOO loudly.
Esk Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 I don't really care that people touch my decks as long as they have clean hands and handle the cards with care. That said, I mostly read for myself and not many people know I read cards or are interested in that. So very few people have touched my decks so far.
Emilija Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 I would say no. I have Asperger's and I'm very picky about my possessions. I wouldn't want anything from someone else's hands on my cards. I wouldn't want them at risk for being damaged if they shuffled them. I guess I'm also superstitious, because I don't want their "energy" on them. I think "energy" means "cooties." :P
Page of Ghosts Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 I don't like people touching my things in general so please no grabby hands when visiting! It would be ok if I offered them to touch or shuffle one of my decks myself... energy cooties can luckily be removed if I feel they become a problem ;) So far there hasn't been any issues with touching or weird energy vibes so I think I'm good.
Whisper Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 I am one of those weirdos who hates having other people touch my cards ;D I don't particularly like people touching my belongings in general but especially not my cards. I feel like it takes ages to get another person's energy off them. I knew one grabby individual and took me about three goes of smoke cleansing to get rid of them, and then I had to top it up again by shuffling like a maniac for a couple of days. I realise how batty this sounds but I'm a big believer that people have different kinds of energy and I try to avoid getting mixed up too much. :-[ I guess I must be a weirdo, too, because I never let others touch my cards for the very same reason as you mention, Dawn. I don't think it sounds batty at all. Energy is transmitted really easily and then it's the devil to cleanse the cards of other people's energy. May sound selfish, but I have to agree with you, here.
Albadawn Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 I am one of those weirdos who hates having other people touch my cards ;D I don't particularly like people touching my belongings in general but especially not my cards. I feel like it takes ages to get another person's energy off them. I knew one grabby individual and took me about three goes of smoke cleansing to get rid of them, and then I had to top it up again by shuffling like a maniac for a couple of days. I realise how batty this sounds but I'm a big believer that people have different kinds of energy and I try to avoid getting mixed up too much. :-[ I guess I must be a weirdo, too, because I never let others touch my cards for the very same reason as you mention, Dawn. I don't think it sounds batty at all. Energy is transmitted really easily and then it's the devil to cleanse the cards of other people's energy. May sound selfish, but I have to agree with you, here. Thanks Shivani. I feel less weird now ;)
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