Tanga Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 They would first have to get inside my front door (i am a recluse) But after that I am fine with it. Funny note though, try to say that they can touch them but the risk is theirs and then after a while say BOO loudly. ;D ;D :o Depends if I know their hands are clean and they're going to handle my cards with care. I always get my face-to-face querents to shuffle (after I've shuffled). I believe that they believe/feel more a part of the process if they shuffle themselves. And it gives me more "tuning in/grounding" time, whilst they do it. So far - anyone who's ever wanted to handle my cards outside of this context has always asked me with gracious care - meaning they obviously know some people don't like having other people touch them. Any super favourite decks that I read with for myself, or use for ritual - I keep a separate copy of the deck - so that I never have the drama that Albadawn describes - in terms of either feeling "icky" or noticing with horror that the corners have been bent or the face scratched etc. I believe, that how much people's "energy" hangs around and affects one, depends on one's own mindset. So - what happens to me, is I'm more sensitive to this if I'm stressed or unwell. And otherwise have little trouble with it at all.
Canid Posted February 9, 2018 Posted February 9, 2018 I so wish I still had that pic of my horse choosing a card, drooling...
nicalo427 Posted March 25, 2018 Posted March 25, 2018 I usually have the person I read for shuffle after I put my intentions and ask question. They shuffle cut and hand it back to me. I have only read for people I know well. And as everyone else says clean hands and not sick as I am in health care. I think the only people who have read with my cards and handled them more then a shuffle are my boyfriend (weve been together about 9 years) who has read a few times with my Dark Carnival Tarot. And maybe my mother in law as we are close and she part of how I got into tarot. I’ve never thought about letting someone go through and just look at them just to look. But I guess if it was my closest friends it wouldn’t be so bad or if I were teaching/learning with someone. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Siavahda Posted March 25, 2018 Posted March 25, 2018 I absolutely can't stand other people touching my cards, although I force myself to do it when I do a reading for others - I always have them choose their own cards. But that's probably the main reason I don't do readings for other people very often. I don't know if that's an issue of fearing other people's energy is going to 'infect' my deck or anything; I get similar anxieties about anyone touching my books, which are also very precious to me. I think in my case it's that these things are my autistic 'special interests', so I get anxious and protective of them for their own sake, rather than out of any psychic or magical considerations.
Whisper Posted March 26, 2018 Posted March 26, 2018 I get similar anxieties about anyone touching my books, which are also very precious to me. I think in my case it's that these things are my autistic 'special interests', so I get anxious and protective of them for their own sake, rather than out of any psychic or magical considerations. I'm a bibliophile, love my books. so I understand perfectly how you feel about your books. I don't like anyone touching mine and I never lend a book, either. It very rarely makes its way back. I do believe there is a transference of energy when it comes to the cards, though. So, because of that and because I cherish them, I don't let anyone touch them either. I really don't think it's because of any particular condition or other. :D <3 <3 They're just precious to me. ;D <3
Siavahda Posted March 26, 2018 Posted March 26, 2018 I get similar anxieties about anyone touching my books, which are also very precious to me. I think in my case it's that these things are my autistic 'special interests', so I get anxious and protective of them for their own sake, rather than out of any psychic or magical considerations. I'm a bibliophile, love my books. so I understand perfectly how you feel about your books. I don't like anyone touching mine and I never lend a book, either. It very rarely makes its way back. I do believe there is a transference of energy when it comes to the cards, though. So, because of that and because I cherish them, I don't let anyone touch them either. I really don't think it's because of any particular condition or other. :D <3 <3 They're just precious to me. ;D <3 Hi-five for bibliophiles! :D But no, I get physically queasy and shaky watching anyone else handle my books - or my cards. So much NOPE! I think there's SOMETHING about energy going on. I know the longer I've had a deck, the easier it becomes to read with it - not in the sense that I learn the card meanings, but it's like a connection has been forged. If every deck has its own voice, then after a while you and the deck learn each other's language? Or something. I did, on one occasion, lend an oracle deck to a friend going through an extremely rough period, and she said the deck felt like me. She's since acquired her own copy of the same deck, and we're both fascinated by how different they feel, vibe-wise. Mine's much more electric and responsive - I generally don't even finish phrasing my question before I've got jumper cards answering me, whereas she has to spend some time searching for the right card to draw. So yeah. I definitely believe a person's energy gets into a deck, and I do give a deck a night with some of my crystals after I've used it doing readings for others (and therefore let other people touch the cards) to cleanse it. But that's not the primary reason I don't like people handling mine.
Cobweb Posted March 26, 2018 Posted March 26, 2018 I am laid back about letting people touch, admire, shuffle... (though not if they're eating or drinking or otherwise sticky-fingered.) I suspect I would treat valuable decks more carefully but all of mine are mass-market and some second-hand too. But what drives me mad is people who want to pick up the cards and hold them in the middle of a reading. It really disrupts the flow and energy of the reading for me. (As for books... I love books. Indiscriminately and without regard to age, condition, value or even subject material. All books should belong to me. I don't borrow them from other people (because it's too difficult to give them back - I fell out with our public library over this issue! :-[ ). I don't lend them to other people (because they hurt them, dog ear pages, and break spines. :'( ). So, yeah, books.)
Annabelle Posted March 27, 2018 Posted March 27, 2018 If I'm reading for someone, I shuffle a few times first, then ask the querent to shuffle and cut the deck. But I don't read professionally, so this situation comes up maybe once a year, if that often. (I used to have a couple of friends who wanted love readings all the time . . . we are no longer friends, and that's part of the reason why.) If I'm showing someone my collection, I'll usually take decks out and offer to let others handle them. There's a tacit understanding that if I offer, they can touch things, but if I don't offer, don't touch. However, my partner and I have developed a conundrum over the years. I collect tarot decks and esoteric books. He collects musical instruments, and books in general. Thus, over time, we've started having fewer parties and fewer people over in general -- we definitely don't have friends with young children over. My partner dies a little inside every time someone touches one of his instruments. And I worry about theft if we had many people over. Only our cat, Moo, has free reign over everything in the house :). I have found her perched atop the very highest shelf in my tarot room before, one that reaches nearly to the ceiling. No idea how she got up there, but she clearly OWNS that shelf.
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