Voicing The Sitter's Unasked Question During the Reading...

[RickInBakersfield]

When I work, I always give the querent a choice of asking me a question or just keeping the question to themselves. But I do ask them if they have a question in mind or not.

 

This past Monday I did a reading for a lady in her mid-50s, and I knew she had a question in mind, but I didn't know what the question was.

 

So, the reading starts. I start talking about the meanings of the cards, and we are conversing back & forth...and then it just hits me, I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT HER QUESTION IS.

 

I don't remember if it was just the vibe, I got off her. Or if it was something that she said, but I knew this woman's question. So, I basically formulated the rest of the reading around the question. I didn't just come out and tell her what her question was.

 

My question to you all is should I have told this sitter flat out that I knew the question she had in mind before the reading started?

 

Would I have connected with her more if I directly told her her question? I am sure the experienced readers on here have had that happen to them before.

 

Thanks for reading this.

[Misterei]

1 hour ago, RickInBakersfield said:

So, the reading starts. I start talking about the meanings of the cards, and we are conversing back & forth...and then it just hits me, I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT HER QUESTION IS.

... My question to you all is should I have told this sitter flat out that I knew the question she had in mind before the reading started?

Hmm. I can't say i've had exactly this situation. What mostly happens is that the client asks one question but the cards address a different topic and I dialog with the client to discover if the spread is off or if there's something else going on in their life. 99% it's that the cards address some other concern they didn't mention.

 

Would I have told the client in your situation? Prolly not directly. I've found people can get uncomfortable if you put them on the spot. I'd be more inclined to dialog and let it come out organically. Like state the question and ask if this is her concern.

 

On another note, I often slightly rephrase a question that I didn't understand and check-in with the client. The purpose isn't to change their question [they hired me to answer their question--not change it] but sometimes I just need to change the wording a bit to better understand it. Often in this process the client is thankful that their question is re-stated more clearly. But it depends on tact and respect, too.

[Raggydoll]

I’m curious, did you receive feedback which confirmed that you interpreted her question correctly? And why didn’t you tell her that you knew her question?

 

If something similar had happened to me, then I’d likely tell the person ”I get the impression that this reading is about ____, and when seen in that context, the cards tell me that ____” or something similar. I do think it’s valuable to tell them what type of input you’re getting. 

[gregory]

18 hours ago, Raggydoll said:

I’m curious, did you receive feedback which confirmed that you interpreted her question correctly? And why didn’t you tell her that you knew her question?

 

If something similar had happened to me, then I’d likely tell the person ”I get the impression that this reading is about ____, and when seen in that context, the cards tell me that ____” or something similar. I do think it’s valuable to tell them what type of input you’re getting. 

 

That's what I'd do too. Not least because if you say flat out "This is your question" it can sound sort of MANAGING. It can also lead to "no it isn't" - where if you say something like you "get the feeling that this is about a relative, maybe a sister... who is creating problems just now ?" it is much more open to collaboration from the sitter.

[RickInBakersfield]

20 hours ago, Raggydoll said:

I’m curious, did you receive feedback which confirmed that you interpreted her question correctly? And why didn’t you tell her that you knew her question?

 

Well, sort of. At the end of the reading, she still didn't tell me her question (which was okay by me).

 

I don't know why I didn't tell her that I knew her question. I don't have an answer for you on that.

 

I totally believe that she wanted to make a move of some kind, that was the question and with the cards in hand, I kind of gave her enough info with the cards to answer her own question, if that makes sense?