Significator - is the Lady her or me

[Celine]

Hello,

 

I cannot untangle this for myself.

I did a 3x3 asking what my (female) boss had taken away from our discussion. The cards do make sense to me...except I keep being confused by the following: the Lady fell, but also the Bear. And suddenly I simply can't decide, can Lady still be me? I keep thinking no, because I am asking about what she does with our discussion, and so I read her as Lady - on the other hand as it was a discussion with me (and pretty heated too), it may seem natural I would be part of the picture.

 

But I think she is the main actor of that reading, and therefore since Lady fell, it is her. Yes, I'm going circles, and my Lenormand book is packed in a box to be moved soon.

 

Thanks for any insights you may have. ( I find that Lady is "either you or the querent" unhelpful as I am making the query, but she is the main character)