EmpyreanKnight Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 Okay, it's time to fess up. Has anybody here used the Tarot to guide them when they are/were dating? I'm just curious. :) I have to admit that I sometimes do this, but not in a creepy, stalker-y way. When I perform date readings (which again is not too often), it's only to know how the date would go, if I have anything to watch out for, stuff like that. I rarely read about the other party. I only do so if I have misgivings about them like when the things they say don't add up, if they're quite shady, or if I suspect that I'm being catfished. This is almost de rigeur when it comes to blind dates lol.
DanielJUK Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 I have read about the other person but I know many people don't like doing third party readings or find it unethical! I think you can bring the reading to about you (rather than their thoughts on you), like as you do Empyrean, how will the date go? or what is the potential with this person? or what do I know about how it will go between us? that brings it more to your side rather than prying into them. I have read to get what other people think of me when things have gone wrong though and I don't have a problem with it ethically because it was about me only :)
EmpyreanKnight Posted June 19, 2018 Author Posted June 19, 2018 I very much respect people's privacy, and I won't pry into anyone's life just for the sake of curiosity. But if it's something that involves me and if there's some cause for concern, then I won't hesitate to read about the other party. But yeah, I guess in this case, one should read more about the date in general than the person one must meet with. Thanks Daniel!
PageOfCups Posted June 19, 2018 Posted June 19, 2018 Isn't this what most people use tarot for anyway? :o It's the #1 topic that comes up when my friends ask me for readings. The Top 3 topics I get asked from friends are: [*]Dating/love interests [*]K-Pop and K-Drama celebrities [*]Family drama Love readings are the main reason I decided to purchase "gentle" decks (the kind where the "scary cards" aren't so blatant and jarring to those less familiar to tarot). Because this one time my friend's sister asked for a reading (she'd been ghosted) and the 3 of Swords came up and I saw the devastated look on her face, and I felt sooo guilty and bad about it, and I decided that I should have "mild" decks for when my friends ask sensitive issues. I used the word "drama" twice in this post and therefore I will shut up now. :-X
Esk Posted June 20, 2018 Posted June 20, 2018 I agree with PageofCups love and dates are very popular topics for tarot readings. I remember when I took part in the old AT exchange subforum, there were tons of questions about romantic relationships and other's feelings. Of course I've done some readings like that myself too. Usually I ask questions about how the date is going to be, what I should do and what I shouldn't do, and what's the potential between us. I avoid other's party feelings. Until it go wrong. When I dated my ex i remember I told myself "This time I will respect his privacy and won't ask questions about his feelings for me". And then he broke up and I asked a lot of questions about his feelings for me and why he did this to me, and will he come back, etc. ::) Your question makes me realise I did many more tarot reading at the beginning of my relationships than now that I am with my partner for years. I mean we often ask such questions to reassure ourselves. When you're in a long term relationship you don't need this anymore because you're sure your partner loves you and you aren't so afraid to do a mistake and to appear stupid or clumsy.
ThreeCircleTarot Posted June 20, 2018 Posted June 20, 2018 I've offered a reading to my lover for their birthday <3 but I wouldn't read him intentionally, not even a relationship reading, without him knowing. I'd want him there to help me decode such a reading, anyways! I don't judge other people for using tarot to explore their relationships, though. I'd lose business ;)
VGimlet Posted June 23, 2018 Posted June 23, 2018 Actually, yes, when I was dating (oh, that would be 38-ish years ago, ack!) I would do readings about my potential dates or relationships. As I remember, they were pretty accurate - which was helpful although not particularly encouraging at the time. I do remember my reading when I first started going out with my husband was fairly positive, but it told me that I needed to decide if I wanted to be connected to someone who was not very adventurous, and because I have a rather adventurous bent I needed to decide if that would work out in the long run or not. Not bad so far. <3 Our 36th anniversary is coming up next month. Did I settle from what my 19-year-old-self wanted? Yeah, somewhat. But I have an extremely wonderful husband. He is the nicest, kindest man, who has settled for someone who is maybe NOT what he exactly wanted as well. :P As far as reading for others...I'll only read about romance or love for the querent, not "how does he feel about me" kinds of questions. It's a fine line.
Emilija Posted June 24, 2018 Posted June 24, 2018 A more interesting question would be: Do you tell your date about your tarot hobbies?
EmpyreanKnight Posted June 24, 2018 Author Posted June 24, 2018 I personally won't. But I can see how my dates would find that interesting. :)
DanielJUK Posted June 24, 2018 Posted June 24, 2018 A more interesting question would be: Do you tell your date about your tarot hobbies? Not on the first date :)) It's interesting on the "are you out of the closet?" about your tarot reading thread on here and an old thread before on AT about who have you told in your life, I was amazed how many people don't ever tell family and husbands and wives. I know that some people live in conservative places and communities or it would cause an issue but I don't think I could be with someone who didn't accept my divination and esoteric interests. I would also accept their weird hobbies and interests (because everyone has at least one :) ). I wouldn't tell them in dating unless it came up but I would hope they know if it got more serious and accepted it (even if they didn't like it or have anything to do with it). We have to be always true to ourselves or it seems so false.
Emilija Posted June 25, 2018 Posted June 25, 2018 I personally won't. But I can see how my dates would find that interesting. :) Why wouldn't you, if you don't mind me asking?
Emilija Posted June 25, 2018 Posted June 25, 2018 A more interesting question would be: Do you tell your date about your tarot hobbies? Not on the first date :)) It's interesting on the "are you out of the closet?" about your tarot reading thread on here and an old thread before on AT about who have you told in your life, I was amazed how many people don't ever tell family and husbands and wives. I know that some people live in conservative places and communities or it would cause an issue but I don't think I could be with someone who didn't accept my divination and esoteric interests. I would also accept their weird hobbies and interests (because everyone has at least one :) ). I wouldn't tell them in dating unless it came up but I would hope they know if it got more serious and accepted it (even if they didn't like it or have anything to do with it). We have to be always true to ourselves or it seems so false. I don't think that I would tell on a first date. If I married a Muslim, I would have to hide it, so I can understand how some people don't tell their spouses. But then again, I have so many decks, I don't know where I would hide them. The only person that knows about my tarot is my mother. NO ONE in my community knows.
PageOfCups Posted June 28, 2018 Posted June 28, 2018 A more interesting question would be: Do you tell your date about your tarot hobbies? Not on the first date :)) It's interesting on the "are you out of the closet?" about your tarot reading thread on here and an old thread before on AT about who have you told in your life, I was amazed how many people don't ever tell family and husbands and wives. I know that some people live in conservative places and communities or it would cause an issue but I don't think I could be with someone who didn't accept my divination and esoteric interests. I would also accept their weird hobbies and interests (because everyone has at least one :) ). I wouldn't tell them in dating unless it came up but I would hope they know if it got more serious and accepted it (even if they didn't like it or have anything to do with it). We have to be always true to ourselves or it seems so false. Are you kidding me? I ask for a guy's birth time and birth place (with exact coordinates, if possible) on the first date to run his natal chart and determine whether there should be a second date. On the second date, I bring along a tarot deck to dinner. After the third date, he gets to meet my cats. Naw, just kidding. LMAO.
EmpyreanKnight Posted June 28, 2018 Author Posted June 28, 2018 I personally won't. But I can see how my dates would find that interesting. :) Why wouldn't you, if you don't mind me asking? Mainly because the Tarot is a very personal thing for me, and I'd have to fully trust a person before I tell them about my passion for it. I don't want to use it as a lure or to inspire more interest as that would seem disrespectful to the cards, at least for me.
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