Anouk Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 In the various schools of thought on tarot, one old rule was that tarot cards needed to come to their owner indirectly, as the tarot cards needed to find their own owner. Do you adhere to this rule, and if so how do you come about attaining a new deck? Sent from my SM-N950F using Tapatalk
stephanelli Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 I definitely don't adhere to this rule. If I did, I'd never have started learning the tarot or being able to help people with my readings. I feel this rule could work if you know someone who reads tarot cards, however, a deck of cards is such a personal choice, particularly with all the variety of decks available nowadays that I feel that if you are drawn to start learning tarot then its totally fine for you to go ahead and pick a deck and choose what you think is best for you. I've brought all my decks for myself - I know no-one else who reads tarot cards and most of my friends don't actually know that I do unless I bring it up if I feel I could help them out with a reading.
Raggydoll Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 I have heard many times the myth that your first deck should be gifted to you (not sure what consequences you will suffer if you buy it yourself though - just general bad luck, perhaps? :)) ). My very first deck was actually gifted to me, but only due to the fact that I was in my early teens and did not have the funds myself to afford a deck back then. So I was gifted one for christmas by a kind relative. But had I been able to buy my own then I would definitely have done so. I do not believe that you must be gifted a deck or that you must find it somewhere. To me that is such ridiculous nonsense that only add to all the superstition that we are trying so hard to combat when it comes to Tarot. And I am willing to bet that not many of our members here believe in in either, because most of us have fairly substantial collections and it would be quite a challenge to find that many generous friends... And where does one find tarot decks lying around waiting for new owners? I have personally never stumbled across a tarot deck that did not belong to someone. And if I had found a deck then I would not assume that it was left there for me to grab it, I would do my best at finding its rightful owner.
gregory Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 Utter rubbish. There's a whole thread here about tarot myths - not that I can find it. There's also a fun book about them by Estelle Daniels. https://www.amazon.com/Tarot-Lore-Other-Estelle-Daniels/dp/069231735X/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8 It's great fun :)
joy Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 I am not superstitious and therefore I do not believe this. However I am sure if you are gifted a deck by someone who is a very advance/long term reader that must be wonderful!
DevonCarter Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 I've never even come across a deck secondhand! And I know for sure I'd never have been gifted one. The ONE other person I know (in "real life") who reads tarot never mentioned it, until I just happened to notice the backs of the Wild Unknown when I was at her house. We'd known each other well for YEARS and it'd never come up for either of us, and both of us come from families where tarot would have been considered outright horrifying. I find myself wondering if this is one of those myths that was originally spread in order to keep tarot exclusive - if you can only own a deck that is gifted to you, you'd have to know someone TO gift it to you - so that rule would do well to keep muggles on the "paying for readings" side, rather than the "learning to read" side.
sandrang123 Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 My first deck actually was gifted to me by my best friend. I was 14. I don't put much stock in the superstition, though.
Guest Night Shade Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 I think this is nonsense. Your first deck should be something that speaks to you personally, not one that someone else thinks is right for you. And if you keep hinting to your friends that's you need them to gift you a deck, you'll probably just end up losing all of your friends. ;D
Sagittarius_Star Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 My first deck belonged to my grandmother...I have never been able to use it, it somehow doesn't feel energetically in tune with me...so I keep that one as a memento of family heritage. My second deck was gifted to me by a "friend", whom I always perceived as being a negative energy...so that deck had to go! I just wasn't able to "read it". I now go to the esoteric bookstore and buy whichever deck I'm naturally attracted to, and I'm usually right about the choice I make. So I guess the only "rule" is having a deck that "speaks" to you and it doesn't really matter who or where it comes from! :hug:moo
Rowena Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 I know for myself (and it seems like for several other people as well) I would never have started to learn tarot if I'd waited for someone to give me a deck. I don't really know anyone who reads tarot, and my friends and family wouldn't even consider it. As for finding a deck somewhere...if you take it, and it isn't yours, isn't that stealing?
Raggydoll Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 As for finding a deck somewhere...if you take it, and it isn't yours, isn't that stealing? My thoughts exactly! :bok:
Anouk Posted December 12, 2018 Author Posted December 12, 2018 As for finding a deck somewhere...if you take it, and it isn't yours, isn't that stealing? My thoughts exactly! :bok: Haha I guess they just mysteriously appear. Anyway thanks for your responses. I really was wondering how much superstition surrounds them. And I want to buy a new deck because I find my Thoth deck confronting sometimes. It was given to me as a gift 20 years ago. Sent from my SM-N950F using Tapatalk
Raggydoll Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 As for finding a deck somewhere...if you take it, and it isn't yours, isn't that stealing? My thoughts exactly! :bok: Haha I guess they just mysteriously appear. Anyway thanks for your responses. I really was wondering how much superstition surrounds them. And I want to buy a new deck because I find my Thoth deck confronting sometimes. It was given to me as a gift 20 years ago. Sent from my SM-N950F using Tapatalk Well, then consider yourself properly encouraged and enabled - buy a new deck! :party:
gregory Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 Look - there's no issue here. Gift a deck to yourself. If it makes you feel better, wrap it, and everything.
DoNotDelete Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 I do buy Tarot decks as a gift for myself :biggrin: All is in your heart and your intuition, intention and what you believe.
Jewel Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 Like many here, had I waited to have one gifted I most likely would have never learned Tarot. I have friends that have since gifted me decks which is fabulous, but I was years into it and had done readings for them prior to that ever happening. I have no qualms purchasing my own decks, and most of my collection is self purchased and the cards read just fine and there has been no adverse affect in over 20 years. So as Raggydoll said, feel encouraged and enabled to go get yourself a deck that calls to you! :biggrin:
Anouk Posted December 22, 2018 Author Posted December 22, 2018 I was thinking there would be exchange circles, where you make a wishlist and other people do an exchange with you. I did receive my first deck as a gift, in fact at the time I was gifted 2 tarot decks, the thoth tarot and the RW tarot, but I don't know what happened to the latter. I was given them for my 21st birthday. Sent from my SM-N950F using Tapatalk
Rarehare Posted December 22, 2018 Posted December 22, 2018 I do buy Tarot decks as a gift for myself :biggrin: All is in your heart and your intuition, intention and what you believe. Let the deck choose you, then buy it as an investment in yourself and as a gift to both yourself and the cards, after all, you’re giving them a home and sacred space.
Starlight Posted December 23, 2018 Posted December 23, 2018 No, I don't think this "rule" applies. I bought my first deck many years ago. Having said that, I got interested in Tarot because a magazine I bought some years prior to that included a perforated sheet of the major arcana inside. Until then, I hadn't really had any contact with Tarot. I think if Tarot calls to you, then it's a-ok to purchase your own deck. :)
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