Do you tell them if there are signs their person of interest is a cheater?

[Starri]

I am always afraid to say anything but if the signs keep coming up I will sometimes mention possibly involvement with other people of the opposite sex or flirting but never put it so bluntly ever...more literal and upfront though if they ask about it or mention it in particular. I will only mention anything if I am very certain and I keep getting this feeling from them..So what do you do...? On one hand I feel it's wrong to say nothing when you see something like this...on the other what if I'm wrong and I have them paranoid for no reason; it's a really tricky situation to navigate. :(

[Clairbuoyant]

Are you asking if you should disclose to a client that your cards are giving indications that someone is being deceitful or cheating?

 

If so, it comes down to whether you believe it’s ethical to withhold info from your clients that is unpleasant. If i am confident that the cards are telling me someone is bring unfaithful, then I disclose. If I am fairly certain, I tell the client that the cards are saying something unfair is going on in their romantic life.  Not accusing anyone of cheating but giving the info I’m sure I see, even if I can’t make out the details. After all, your client might be the cheater.

[Guest Night Shade]

Hi, Starri[/member]

 

I moved your question to Talking Tarot because you're asking for help with a situation, not a specific spread.

 

As for your question, I think a lot of it depends on the emotional state of your client.  If you think they can handle it, then maybe give them a few gentle hints.  If they can't, it may be best to keep your mouth shut, especially if you're not absolutely certain.

 

If you do have suspicions of cheating, maybe tell them to make sure that all their relationships are healthy and thriving.  If they really take a good look at their relationships, they'll soon find out the truth of the matter on their own.

[Grandma]

There was a recent discussion about whether to share bad news with people we read for.  You might be interested in reading it at https://www.thetarotforum.com/esoteric/hid-information-from-a-reading-to-a-client-(serious-concecuences)-and-i-feel-bad/msg59348/#msg59348

 

A whole different question is whether we are reading with the permission of the person who might have the problem or whether we are just curious or worried about someone we care about.  I think you are reading for clients so this won't apply to you, but just in case I'm wrong, I'll mention it.

 

In that case I would decide on the same basis as whether I would talk to them about my suspicions just from general observations.  For example,  I was sure my daughter was being cheated on once and I told her that I thought that the guy was married, and why.  She was angry with me - really, really angry - but eventually it turned out that the guy was married.  I was glad I had told her, but even though I knew my daughter really well, it was not an easy decision to tell her and I only did it because a mother must protect her children.

 

If it had been, say, a co-worker who I knew would be destroyed by the news, I would have kept out of it and hoped that she wouldn't also be destroyed if it turned out her guy was also married.

 

I didn't even know about tarot then, but I would probably use the same reasoning to decide about sharing bad news in cases like this.

 

But again, if you are talking about reading for clients, then what I just wrote is irrelevant but hopefully thought provoking anyway. 

 

 

 

 

[Luna]

Its always a tricky thing to come across, isn't it?  To tell or not to tell.  Even if you're just a friend and KNOW your best friends mate is seeing others, (not through a card reading), its not an easy thing to come out and tell your friend.  However, you need to be honest and tell, imo.  However, HOW you tell them is a whole other case altogether.

 

I always stress from the get go that the cards can also be wrong and may show something that isn't actually happening--that sometimes I may see the symbols meaning one thing, when the cards could be talking about something else altogether.  So that will also help in a case like telling your customer their partner is cheating on them.  If I do see their partner is possibly cheating, I may say to them that there appears to be another person (male/female) of interest or who is very close to them.  Sometimes this helps as they may come out and say, "Oh yes, J is helping our neighbor friend who is in great need right now and they have become very close."  Still not really indicating an affair is going on, but sometimes those cards that MIGHT look like they are having an affair to you as the reader, is really indicating that they became close for other reasons.  Or it may at least alert them to something else going on all together.....

 

Just remember that yes, you could be right and yes, you could be wrong.  No one is 100% correct 100% of the time and so one must always be careful to stress that to all their customers.  Which is why I like to remind my customers that reading the cards is an art and that I read the symbols I get from the cards, but I could be interpreting them incorrectly.  I also stress that the cards show what MAY be.  Also, remember that every person has full control of their own lives and sometimes the cards can and do just alert them to a possibility that they can control and change, so what is shown is just a possibility.  We all are in full control of our lives, not the cards or the reader.

[Starri]

Thank you all..this helps ease my mind some; Grandma yes I do read for clients but thank you; very interesting story and I will check out that thread...I think I will keep just hinting at something (not in particular cheating) just them being close to a certain woman here or some interference with the opposite sex, etc. I don't want to freak them out...sometimes though when the message keeps coming through over and over I feel I MUST tell as those are always the times when it shocks them (in a good way) or reminds myself why the messages in tarot aren't just randomness but the information is being picked up to be shared for a very specific reason. So Idk i guess it's a case by case thing how to tell or when to tell or if to mention anything at all so I'll just keep feeling it out but happy no one has said not to mention it at all..

[joy]

There is a reason why the phrase 'shoot the messenger' exists. In the old days if the messenger delivered bad news he often was blamed for the bad news.

Today I think that still exists, however we hopefully do not just shoot the messenger. If I know a friend of mine is being cheated on, I would probably try to find a way to talk about it. Sometimes the person being cheated on however has to find out themselves. It is very tricky.... I know of instances when everyone knew someone was being cheated on but not the person. At the end of course the person was angry that nobody told her.....

 

But in a reading I think it is different. The client is seeking for advice. Maybe deep down the client knows something is amiss and that is why a reading has been asked for.

If you are not sure if the message you get is correct, that is tricky. But like others said, I would definitely try to hint that something is not right and that the client has to pay attention.

[Rarehare]

You have to be honest with yourself, the cards and the querent in order to have an easy heart.  There are gentle ways of disclosing the information, but telling someone what you see may open a dialog that they’ve wanted, but been afraid, to have, or it may help bring closure to something they’ve been doubtful about, but finally see the writing on the wall.

 

A few years back when I was reading palms (I keep promising myself I’ll get back to it), I knew a guy who was a traveling musician.  On his palm was the very clear sign of an impending divorce happening soon, but instead of preparing him for this possibility, I told him he needed to go home and make good with the wife, dog and cat.  A few months later he rang me up out of bed to tell me he’d met someone and to ask me whether she was the one.  Well, you can’t read palms over a phone, lol!  He was pretty in denial of everything to do with his wife—it turned out he habitually dated women, but only those who shared his wife’s name in common, a tad creepy—and he was always looking for the next best thing around the corner.  Now had I been frank with him maybe he could’ve come to terms with his failing marrriage (hopefully without using me as an excuse) and found the maturity to break things off humanely (although maturity was lacking).  It could’ve brought things to a head for him and maybe been more merciful to his wife.  I understand he went on to win a Grammy for a coffee commercial jingle he wrote, but I’ve always wondered if he ever gave up that serial debauchery of his, grew up and became a filial husband.

 

By not speaking the truth at that time, I did him, his wife and myself a disservice.

 

Always speak the truth.  Find a tactful way to say it, but as Shakespeare said, “To thine own self be true.”

 

Hope this helps!

[DanielJUK]

This depends on the context and what is asked in the reading I think. Often when people ask about love with me, they say "please say the truth", "please don't sugarcoat it" and that is a clear sign they are worried about the person already or would rather know. But if they ask if this person is their one soulmate or will be loyal to them and it says they won't, I will tell them. If they ask for a reading about the next 12 months with a person and how it will develop and it's a negative answer, I will explain this to them. I can't be sure of what will happen or the signs but would be open about if it if it related to their question. However I think there are some circumstances where I wouldn't tell them if they didn't directly ask about it or I didn't think they could handle it. I wouldn't ever make up a fake message but just not say my concerns.

 

There is an ethical consideration here as well about reading for a third person who probably has not consented to being read on. I would have to weigh everything up. I think it would be okay for me to read on what the person thinks of them but people always wanted to know if they are married or gay or no chance with them. Reading about the future with someone is more tricky. I would word it I think that there could be relationships problems / obstacles in future rather than definitely saying someone is a cheater. But it would be on a reading per reading basis for me. The minute you say there could be problems with someone cheating, it will change that relationship whatever the truth is, so it's something to be careful about  8)