GreatDane Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 This hasn't happened to me...yet. But has anyone ever done a reading and the querent got really mad? Like a relationship reading they were in denial about? I have had the same querent ask me, more than once, about the same relationship, but never had anyone go off about how that just can't be true, but know it has happened to others. ANYONE? If so, was it about love, family, career?
Arabella Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 Only in readings for myself ;D Drawn a card and looked at it and thought "yeah great, as if I didn't know that, you obstinate deck, you" or "thanks a lot, tell me something I didn't know" Only happened once and not mad as such, but a written reading were the sitter came back later and refused to read the write up of the reading. She said she didn't want to know anymore and was happy to let nature take its course. Hahaha my reading said that she should do just that and was trying to over manipulate things. She was adamant that I destroy the letter and definitely not let her partner know she had had a reading done.
DanielJUK Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 This has never happened to me! But I remember once on AT, dear Grizabella[/member] interpreted someone's reading in a thread where they had posted the reading for others to interpret. Griz said what she saw and that poster did not want to hear that message and was furious on the message board ;D Her post was after my take on it and I saw it unfold in notifications. I think he / she wanted to get interpretations that they wanted to hear (it might have been a love reading) and out of all the takes, Griz said the truth she saw! But that person managed to be furious through text, it was amazing! I think I remember the moderators told her to stay away form the thread and don't post anything more until the person calms down in some days :biggrin: oh I laughed!
Saturn Celeste Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 :biggrin: oh I laughed! X-D Poor Griz!! :rolleyes:
GreatDane Posted February 26, 2019 Author Posted February 26, 2019 Exactly what I was talking about, DanielJUK! I don't remember that one, or maybe I blocked out of my memory, but I remembered other readers not on AT having issues re the querent didn't want to hear it! I have had people disappointed in a reading, especially a relationship reading, but no one has ever gotten mad or upset like that. But when you read for people, it's only a matter of time til it's possible to come across one.
Saturn Celeste Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 I haven't had that particular experience although one of my first readings I didn't know he was an older man and I predicted a pregnancy for him!! Oh he was so kind though! I then told him well, it's most likely a new writing project. :bhehe: I also had someone else who didn't let me know about what she thought of the reading so I finally PMd her and she said she didn't like it! I asked her what she didn't like about it and she said, she just didn't like the reading. Well I did some soul searching after that and tried to be more clear with my wording and have as much meaning into the reading as I could put in. But again, this was really early on in my history. But each of these 'dislikes' from my clients, really helped me learn to try harder to connect with my sitters!!
GreatDane Posted February 26, 2019 Author Posted February 26, 2019 Loved the stories you shared, SC and so true, how do you learn without feedback?
Raggydoll Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 I haven't had that particular experience although one of my first readings I didn't know he was an older man and I predicted a pregnancy for him!! Oh he was so kind though! I then told him well, it's most likely a new writing project. :bhehe: I also had someone else who didn't let me know about what she thought of the reading so I finally PMd her and she said she didn't like it! I asked her what she didn't like about it and she said, she just didn't like the reading. Well I did some soul searching after that and tried to be more clear with my wording and have as much meaning into the reading as I could put in. But again, this was really early on in my history. But each of these 'dislikes' from my clients, really helped me learn to try harder to connect with my sitters!! I LOVE that pregnancy-story!! <3 X-D I can’t remember any occasions where someone has gotten mad but I can remember a reading I did where the client got really upset. It also involved a pregnancy! It was actually a guy who I read for over the phone (this was 10+ years ago). He was in a relationship but didn’t want to give much information away (He told me straight from the start that he was a sceptic). But I soon sensed that there was relationship issues. I asked him if his girlfriend was expecting a baby and if that was making him stressed or uncomfortable somehow. He said yes. She had been unfaithful and was most likely carrying another mans baby :bugeyed:. But the reading turned out to be a really positive experience because he then let down his guard and we got to talk about him and his feelings and options. Afterwards he said he was no longer a skeptic and that he was relieved to been proven wrong. He was deep down hoping to have a meaningful reading so that he didn’t have to stick to his skeptical views.
Saskia Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 People haven't gotten furious, but they have gotten very defensive/not wanting to hear. This usually happens in relationship readings, when the ex is not coming back according to my cards. The sitters try to twist the question or ask in different iterations, as if that would change the outcome :bugeyed: A couple of times a person has asked me to stop reading because they didn't want to hear the end - I wasn't saying anything grave like predicting bad things, but sometimes it seems that people get squeamish about the cards hitting too close to home and they backtrack with what they wanted to know. I guess it's the uncanny aspect of the cards, 'how can they/she possibly know this', that gets in particular first-timers to clam up, unfortunately. Of course I respect their wish and then try to reformulate what I've already said in the most constructive and helpful way; although of course I try to do so from the beginning.
Grizabella Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 Let's see if I can post this. My internet is sooooo slow! Sometimes it will work and other times not. I've had people get upset but not really angry. Just frustrated I think. But my experience has been that if someone crosses my path later on, they'll tell me I was spot on a lot of the time and they feel sheepish about it. But of course, there are going to be hits and misses for any reader. What I advise them is to not let it bring them down. Nobody is ever 100% right all the time. I don't remember the instance Daniel mentioned but I don't remember readings I've given once they're done. I've seen other readers say that, too. I've had sitters tell me that what I've seen in the cards could never happen and given me lots of reasons why. I never argue with them or make excuses about it. I just calmly tell them that I'm not always right and that time will tell whether or not the reading pans out. I've never had anyone ask for a refund, though. Several years ago someone on AT got upset with me and told me never to post to her threads again. lol. That was in a Your Readings sub-forum. I'm sitting on my bed without any light. I have the blind opened a little but it's not enough to see my keyboard so I won't make this a long post. I'm crocheting some curtains for my RV and I do that by turning around to face the window and then I can see to crochet. I just hope this message will post, because nothing much works right now even on the internet here.
Bluelagune Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 Oh I remember the Grizabella post. Yes there were a few strange posts in that same period. I had the lady with pugs, a difficult reading. I could understand her frastrations so I did try to explain to her. But I think she was banned right after. Another young girl from AT, I wasn't expecting her to play "test the psychic" which I'm not but I can cross-reference her privious responses to other readers so why lie?
sandrang123 Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 The one that I recall is a stupid one, in that I read someone and got really alarmed, because I kept seeing "something fall". And this was probably dumb on my end, too, because for the life of me I couldn't get my brain around it, and I couldn't really say exactly what it was just what the general shape/size was, so my hands kept framing the size. And I just...couldn't let it go...I think she got more frustrated with ME for not letting it go. And she got really snippy because it didn't resonate with her at all, yet I kept harping on it. This was someone I saw somewhat regularly, in social settings. Well...it took about 4-5 weeks but she did say they had been having a renovation of their bathroom being done during her reading (NOT why she was there for a reading) and the skylight (about 12x12) was placed in by the worker and wasn't secure. It fell when she was in the bathroom, nearly hit her head.
Saturn Celeste Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 It fell when she was in the bathroom, nearly hit her head. Now, it's this kind of stuff that gives me goosebumps! By your 'harping' on the thing that would fall, she remembered it! And had the opportunity to tell you about it!
sandrang123 Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 I'm not sure how I feel about this, honestly, despite the "warning"...She was really sort of pissed because she WASN'T paying or being there for me to answer an "x" (weirdly unspecific, random) thing or talk about something falling at all. And hey: When people sit with you, they're PAYING. So there is that. Remember that conversation we had a few months back on TTM, on "when to leave it alone" or something to that effect. And my new response was I will state something odd and state maybe once more, and if I'm met with resistance, I will now let it go. That was an earlier reading when I just wouldn't let it alone. In some ways I feel I disrespected why she was there, regardless, if that makes sense. Because, bottom line: She wasn't hurt, and to her mind it was probably really random. Just because I see it, somewhat accurately, doesn't make it meaningful. It fell when she was in the bathroom, nearly hit her head. Now, it's this kind of stuff that gives me goosebumps! By your 'harping' on the thing that would fall, she remembered it! And had the opportunity to tell you about it!
bookshop Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 Haha, there've been a few instances. Not really a case of someone getting upset at me, but once I pulled the death card for a coworker, and no matter how much I tried to explain to her that it didn't mean literal death, she came in the next Monday (after the weekend) saying, Aja! our neighbor died! You can't read for me anymore! haha. The last time I read for a friend, she sort of openly eyerolled at some of what I was saying to her, probably because I was sorta gently lecturing her in the guise of the reading and she really didn't want to hear it, haha. And once about a decade ago I was throwing a dinner party and did a super awkward reading where I drew the 3 of swords for a guest in front of her husband, and the less said about that the better.
Guest libra Posted March 7, 2019 Posted March 7, 2019 Ohhh I have a visceral memory of sitting and holding The Hanged Man in one hand and a lighter to burn that effing card in another. The dangerous side of using cards as signifiers for people. You get them too intertwined with the card and when something goes wrong with them ... boom that card is suddenly a terrible, terrible reminder.
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