Do you find some people are easier to read for than others?

[Guest Night Shade]

Hi everyone

 

When I read for other people, I find that some of them are a lot easier to read for than others.  The strange thing is it doesn't seem to matter if I'm familiar with the person or not - I can read for some people with complete clarity, while with others it's like there's a brick wall between them and my intuition.  Does this happen with any of you, and if it does, do you have any idea why it happens?

[stephanelli]

Yes! I totally find some people easier to read for.  For me, I think the clarity and ease depends on a few factors:

- most importantly, how open they are to being read for (i.e. do they believe that tarot works)

- how willing they are to hear the answers shown in the cards (whether good or bad for them)

- in some cases, my opinion on their question can affect the ease with which I can read for them

[Guest Night Shade]

Yes! I totally find some people easier to read for.  For me, I think the clarity and ease depends on a few factors:

- most importantly, how open they are to being read for (i.e. do they believe that tarot works)

- how willing they are to hear the answers shown in the cards (whether good or bad for them)

- in some cases, my opinion on their question can affect the ease with which I can read for them

 

That last one is a problem for me as well.  I always have to try hard not to interject my own feelings and opinions into my readings, and sometimes I really have to struggle not to turn them into lectures!  :))

[Raggydoll]

Yes, this is definitely a thing. Most often it is because you are intuitive and pick up on energies of other people. Sometimes a person might want a reading but still feel a bit conflicted about it. Perhaps there are areas they are not truly wanting to explore, or certain things they fear might come up. Other times they might just have a subconscious resistance due to them not being emotionally ready yet. When this happens, I think that it’s a good idea to have a bit of a talk and see if they are able to express their expectations, fears or concerns. Sometimes they are just unsure about the technicalities of a tarot reading and simply don’t know what to expect. That’s when I make sure they know that they get to lead. It’s their reading so they get to be involved in creating the framework and the boundaries. Integrity is so important. You can come to the agreement to only touch on certain specific topics and deliberately leave out others. Communication is key here. But if you get the feeling that there is a wall AND they refuse to cooperate or communicate, then it’s up to you as a reader to decide if you want to go ahead with the reading or say no. If you know that you will not be able to do a fair job on it then perhaps it’s best for everyone to reconsider things. Just some thoughts!

[Raggydoll]

Yes! I totally find some people easier to read for.  For me, I think the clarity and ease depends on a few factors:

- most importantly, how open they are to being read for (i.e. do they believe that tarot works)

- how willing they are to hear the answers shown in the cards (whether good or bad for them)

- in some cases, my opinion on their question can affect the ease with which I can read for them

 

That last one is a problem for me as well.  I always have to try hard not to interject my own feelings and opinions into my readings, and sometimes I really have to struggle not to turn them into lectures!  :))

 

At least you are aware of this and that makes a huge difference!

[Guest Night Shade]

Yes, this is definitely a thing. Most often it is because you are intuitive and pick up on energies of other people. Sometimes a person might want a reading but still feel a bit conflicted about it. Perhaps there are areas they are not truly wanting to explore, or certain things they fear might come up. Other times they might just have a subconscious resistance due to them not being emotionally ready yet. When this happens, I think that it’s a good idea to have a bit of a talk and see if they are able to express their expectations, fears or concerns. Sometimes they are just unsure about the technicalities of a tarot reading and simply don’t know what to expect. That’s when I make sure they know that they get to lead. It’s their reading so they get to be involved in creating the framework and the boundaries. Integrity is so important. You can come to the agreement to only touch on certain specific topics and deliberately leave out others. Communication is key here. But if you get the feeling that there is a wall AND they refuse to cooperate or communicate, then it’s up to you as a reader to decide if you want to go ahead with the reading or say no. If you know that you will not be able to do a fair job on it then perhaps it’s best for everyone to reconsider things. Just some thoughts!

 

These are all great ideas, Raggydoll[/member] .  Letting the sitter lead is something I definitely need to work on.  No matter what the question, I have a tendency to take the reading where I  feel it needs to go, whether they meant to go there or not.  And I'm stubborn, so I want to complete a reading no matter what, but like you said, maybe sometimes it's best to just let it go.

[Saturn Celeste]

Hi everyone

 

When I read for other people, I find that some of them are a lot easier to read for than others.  The strange thing is it doesn't seem to matter if I'm familiar with the person or not - I can read for some people with complete clarity, while with others it's like there's a brick wall between them and my intuition.  Does this happen with any of you, and if it does, do you have any idea why it happens?

This is something I've thought about for myself also.  But while I have readings that didn't hit home for people, that was my fault, not theirs. Were they harder to read than others that loved their readings?  Honestly no.  Most of them let me redo the reading with a more specific question or more or less cards, maybe more oracles, it differed.  This was also during my really early years of learning.  Now I try to word the questions better, use the consistent number of cards or use a spread, and make sure to have lots of communication.  Emails are essential.  I also feel if I start to think someone is hard to read, then they all might become that in my thinking and that wouldn't do me or the sitter any good!  :o  There will always be readings that don't hit home with people.  We are humans and make mistakes and tarot readings are not an exact science so understanding this will happen is a good way to understand why it happens.

[Guest Night Shade]

Hi everyone

 

When I read for other people, I find that some of them are a lot easier to read for than others.  The strange thing is it doesn't seem to matter if I'm familiar with the person or not - I can read for some people with complete clarity, while with others it's like there's a brick wall between them and my intuition.  Does this happen with any of you, and if it does, do you have any idea why it happens?

This is something I've thought about for myself also.  But while I have readings that didn't hit home for people, that was my fault, not theirs. Were they harder to read than others that loved their readings?  Honestly no.  Most of them let me redo the reading with a more specific question or more or less cards, maybe more oracles, it differed.  This was also during my really early years of learning.  Now I try to word the questions better, use the consistent number of cards to use or a spread, and make sure to have lots of communication.  Emails are essential.  I also feel if I start to think someone is hard to read, then they all might become that in my thinking and that wouldn't do me or the sitter any good!  :o  There will always be readings that don't hit home with people.  We are humans and make mistakes and tarot readings are not an exact science so understanding this will happen is a good way to understand why it happens.

 

This is an excellent point (even though I hate to accept it!  :))  )  I didn't occur to me that maybe the sitter isn't hard to read, but rather that I just can't comprehend the reading, or I'm not reading it properly.  It's so easy for me to put the blame on the other person, but maybe I should take a look at my skills instead, and practice some more!

[gregory]

Yes! I totally find some people easier to read for.  For me, I think the clarity and ease depends on a few factors:

- most importantly, how open they are to being read for (i.e. do they believe that tarot works)

- how willing they are to hear the answers shown in the cards (whether good or bad for them)

- in some cases, my opinion on their question can affect the ease with which I can read for them

This last is why I will not read for friends and family (with one exception.)

 

I find it much easier to read for other tarotistas than for non-tarot people, though. Because they GET what I'm doing so I can get on and do it without wondering if they will see what I'm getting at and where I am getting it from in the cards.

[MysticMoonlight]

Most definitely.

 

I think people that are willing to receive the information that you are sharing with them during a reading help the "flow" of a reading tremendously. In my experience, those that want the advice/help/guidance/mirror, etc. that the cards can offer, to grow and/or better themselves in some way or move on, what-have-you, are less resistant (of course, right) to the changes that are needed to achieve the goal. Things "come through" (for the lack of a better way of explaining it) better for them because they actually WANT to do the work to achieve said goal(s). Makes all the difference in the world sometimes.

 

I've had clients that want to "test" me and/or my ability to read and while I can read them, it just feels so different. Like a barrier is between us and I've gotta find a crack in the mortar to try and get the information through. I've even had a client tell me that if I can answer such-and-such question "correctly" (a question specifically designed by them beforehand to be able to determine if I'm legitimate by their standards) they'll then, and only then, believe I'm the "real deal." I always wanna slap my forehead when this happens  :o I find that, by and far, these types tend to hinder their own progress, healing, ability to transition, whatever, because they can get too caught up in details that trip them up or they just (sometimes) do not want to actually work on issues. They want things to just fix themselves.

 

To be fair, sometimes things do fix themselves. Time can do a lot for a lot of things. That said, sometimes though, you gotta work hard for that s*!t  ;)

 

 

[~D~]

Hi everyone

 

When I read for other people, I find that some of them are a lot easier to read for than others.  The strange thing is it doesn't seem to matter if I'm familiar with the person or not - I can read for some people with complete clarity, while with others it's like there's a brick wall between them and my intuition.  Does this happen with any of you, and if it does, do you have any idea why it happens?

Yes! I get this at times...I wonder if they are holding back on something on their end...Like not being honest with themselves...Or the bit of info they gave you, isn't quite right..Or something is closed off???? Those are just some IMO... <3

[Eric13]

Funny you should bring this up now because yes, this just happened with me. Last week I did a reading for someone grieving and the reading/question had to do with that issue and the reading/spread went really well. Really helped the person out I read for and that was great to do and see the results. A serious issue. Then, just a couple of days ago I did sort of a fun one in which someone just wanted to know if would ever have grandkids. And it was all be email. For some reason everything about was like hitting a wall. Could have been my concentration, I wasnt really on a time frame by them, very cool folks, but it was just difficult getting a clear picture even though the cards were very telling of their question. I always ask people if it helped and if I answer their question and they didnt respond. If didnt feel 100% about it though.

[Saturn Celeste]

Funny you should bring this up now because yes, this just happened with me. Last week I did a reading for someone grieving and the reading/question had to do with that issue and the reading/spread went really well. Really helped the person out I read for and that was great to do and see the results. A serious issue. Then, just a couple of days ago I did sort of a fun one in which someone just wanted to know if would ever have grandkids. And it was all be email. For some reason everything about was like hitting a wall. Could have been my concentration, I wasnt really on a time frame by them, very cool folks, but it was just difficult getting a clear picture even though the cards were very telling of their question. I always ask people if it helped and if I answer their question and they didnt respond. If didnt feel 100% about it though.

Joe, do you do yes/no readings?  Sometimes converting these to a yes/no reading will give you a lot more insight.  It's never either yes or no, there are always in-betweens that make the answer not so exacting.  PM me if you'd like to discuss this further.

[Guest libra]

I straight up know I'm hard to read. I've got some mad barriers to begin with, plus some DID-ish personality things going on, so without me consciously trying to let my barriers down, I find most readers can't really get a lock in on me. Then, if they are able to, chances are it's just a fragment of myself that the reader does access, so the reading may or may not really be helpful to the whole of me anyway. When I do exchanges here, I do make that effort to pull down my barriers and not let one facet of myself hog the spotlight but it actually takes significant effort.

 

Outside of this forum, I can't really say that I fully trust many readers, as so many are the type to be like "ooooh I see a traumatic rape in a past life that is affecting you to this day! You need to buy this $75 candle and a $300 bond-breaking session with me to be able to be free of your bad karma!" Or, if they aren't like that, I've seen readers outright mocking previous clients or disclosing details and private conversations, etc. So I'm not gonna make that effort to being those barriers down unless they've proven themselves to be trustworthy and not scammy. I can count the number of readers who I turn to for a reading on one hand with fingers to spare, and they are people who've made it past that first vetting for scammers and people who can't be trusted with keeping confidence, but also who vibe with me well enough that the effort to allow them through my barrier systems is minimal.

 

At the same time, I very rarely feel like I actually need to go to someone else for a reading. I made a thread a while back asking what you'd ask the cards if you knew they were telling the truth 100%, could tell the future etc. I kinda go by that with my work with the cards - like, I'm not going to them with this idea that I can change my path is if I don't like what I see and they might not be accurate or whatever. So I really only turn to the cards when I can honestly say that I do want an answer to what I'm asking and that I will have faith in what they tell me. That's... Really not often for me lol, and it's usually work that I can do with my cards myself! When I need an outside opinion, I'm more likely to turn to my partner, my parents, my friends or my therapist than a tarot reader. And with the few tarot readers that I go to, I guess I do consider them to be friends, so it's more in line with going for lunch with a friend and getting their take on what's going on in my life, except they use their cards.

[Guest libra]

Oh and all that being said about me as a querent, here's an older post I made about being a tarot reader who mainly read cards for other tarot readers, that kinda goes into people being hard to read for!

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I've figured out part of why all of the "Tarot can't DO yes/no questions so don't ask: "Tarot can't tell the future" "Tarot isn't meant to answer that" type of posts bother me so much. See, a huge part of my belief system is that we are all interconnected. You have your personality and personal beliefs, but they tug other people in that direction with you, like you're one little piece of a net.

 

So you've got non-tarot believers, tugging away, then you've got people who believe in limiting tarot kinda halfway, then people like me. I've seen tarot tell futures, work for yes/no, bring out insane details about people who aren't present. But getting that kind of clarity, those details requires not just my belief, but the querents.  Reading as an empath and part of that net means that I go partially to where my querent is and pull them towards where I am. If my querent is doubting me, then I'm not just reading, I'm tugging on the net to get to the place where I CAN read, I'm dragging them up with me. And that is work I'm totally happy to do - but it's frustrating to have to do that when it's other people who I thought were in my zone! On the other hand, if they are open to new experiences, if can hold space to ride with me, then amazing things can come of it. A deep-seated belief that Tarot Can't Do That can be MORE difficult to overcome that even someone who doesn't read tarot at all!

 

So basically.  If you can't or won't read tarot in a certain way, that's fine. But, maybe consider changing your wording when you speak about it. "I don't do yes/no questions, so please word your question accordingly!" rather than "Tarot can't answer yes or no." "I believe you have agency over your future, so you can change the outcome of this reading accordingly" instead of "Tarot can't predict the future accurately."

 

Hold space for the magic to happen, even if it isn't that way for you. When you slam a door on a possibility, you start rooting in where you are and holding the net down, along with everyone on the net around you. We are already the weirdos who do the impossible, so let the impossible happen beyond you too!