Different Answers - Newbie Mistake....

[aniviel]

Hello,

I hope you're all well.

I'm new here, rather new to reading myself, not too new for Tarot generally (I've had a reader I've been talking to for the past 7 years).

 

Currently going through overly-emotional stuff and my mind tends to keep going to do the same place (relationships... I'm sure we've all been there?). My reader has been giving me some great future predictions about it (which is rare for me when it comes to heart matters), but the current / past is quite difficult and not getting much easier. I've opened a Celtic Cross on it myself (I use the RW deck) 2-3 weeks ago after seeing the guy because I felt a really strong instinct to, I got fantastic future cards (The World for outcome) and not-so-fantastic for present/past so it all seemed to be heading where I want it to. Then I had a top-up with my reader last week (we haven't spoken in a few months) and the same excellent future predictions remain for the timeframes as before, in line with my own reading (but more detailed), with the painful stagnation now apparently because this man is going through a Tower (I'm only getting hints of it as we haven't really spoken... but I can sense it) and will continue to go through it for a couple of months so not much until after!

So all has been making sense to me but the paranoias still kick in since it's rare I actually go into heart matters...

 

Yesterday I took my deck out to nature to take some shots of it (he's into tarot himself and I'm making him a little birthday gift). On a whim, I asked the tarot a question about him, I got a card that seemed so accurate considering what my reader said that I was shocked. So I did another one on him (this time asking what he's going through) and I actually got The Tower, just as my reader said. Double shock because I never thought of myself as a good reader... However, on that whim, I then asked about my future with this man, and got a "bad" card (I think it was something devastating like Ten of Swords but doesn't matter). I asked a few more questions about our relationship, each time pulling one card, and they all seem to be bad except one...

 

Now my questions were all relating to the same stuff my reader spoke off so positively, and to my own Celtic Cross from 2-3 weeks ago. Nothing actively changed between us since and to be honest, I'm not the firmest believer in free will, otherwise I wouldn't repeatedly go to my reader who tends to be correct more often than not.

I know I shouldn't have asked about things I already had an answer for... and now I'm letting it get to me, too! Terrible.

 

From your experience, is there a point me paying any attention to this second "reading"? (pulled a single card on each question) or just continue going with my original Celtic Cross and my reader's predictions? To be fair I do trust her more than me and my intuition is to side with her, but the heart spins...

 

Thank you,

I hope it's not too long and I'm really excited to be among knowledgable people at last...

Edited August 19, 2019 by aniviel

[Raggydoll]

Hey and welcome! What I would do is take a deep breath and refocus a bit. I suggest that you stop asking - at least temporarily- about the future and instead do a reading to explore what you would benefit from focusing on right now, and perhaps also ask what you can do to have things going in the desired direction. You might get replies that indicate that you shouldn’t be doing anything special at the moment, but at least then you know. I feel that it’s important to use our cards in a way that isn’t disempowering us. The ideal would be to have each reading aimed at nourishing us on some level, but that might be too high of an aim. Just focus on recognizing when your readings give you a sense of worry, tension or confusion. That’s when it’s usually a good time to take a pause and let life unfold itself while we place our energy into the things that restore our sense of balance and groundedness 💜

[Mi-Shell]

Hi aniviel! Welcome to the forum!🌻

 Love is fickle, loooooove is fleeting.

And just maybe at the time you received the reading "the guy" indeed WAS thinking about you....

Now however, he may either have a bit of a roving eye or maybe realize, how very serious you are about the relationship and pull away a litle - or a lot....

Maybe the Tower and the 10 of Swords reflect your own fear of losing this relationship and your growing panic?

When learning to work with cards, there are some scarrrrrry ones out there and it takes a lot of practice to intuit all their nuances....

Advice I give my own students is, first to go about readings in a very playful manner. Read playfully about yourself in everyday situations.

NO giant spreads, 1 to 3 cards.......

See, what the images drag up inside you.

Never mind the card meaning in the book. First YOU, then the book! 

Tarot works with images and archetypes, that speak to our unconscious and some promptings will come through from the collective unconscious - or, as some say, form the Spirits or the Universe/ Multiverse.