Brellaella Posted October 7, 2019 Posted October 7, 2019 Hi all, this is my first post here and I am very far from an expert. I first started on tarot just over a year ago. This was following a very difficult break up, following a relationship that involved emotional abuse and I used tarot amongst other things to find myself again and work on building back up a pretty shattered confidence. I’d also gained a huge amount of weight - nearly 60lbs! - so have been working on rectifying this (43lbs down). As you can imagine, this physical and mental process has relied on a total break from dating and men in general. Recently, before I got too set in my ways, I decided to give online dating a try. Given my trepidation, I didn’t expect to connect with anyone enough to want to meet for some time, rather just get back into chatting to people and build confidence. Anyway, within two days I clicked with a guy on there - and I mean really clicked, so much in common, same outlook and morals etc. We were talking all the time, including after the date we arranged (I was so nervous), though he was initiating the conversations over text I responded quickly and positively. Problem is this, I was too scared to be flirty, too scared to suggest meeting up again and probably not underlining my interest enough. After he was texting for three days, it suddenly stopped. This is very confusing, so I did a quick horseshoe spread and was struck by the results. Grateful for your thoughts on this one (I’ll put my own interpretation next to each card): Past - 8 of cups (abandonment, disappointment) Present - page of cups (tentative openness to new love, learning again) Hidden influences - 5 of cups (past trauma influencing my fears, he has had similar experiences to me also) Obstacles - five of wands (I see this as stubbornness - perhaps he’s expecting me to reach out) Environment - The Empress (no clue on this one!) Action to Take - Queen of Wands (this one really struck me - feels like a major push to be confident and engaging) Outcome - the Lovers (this one speaks for itself I think) I’ve never shared a spread before, but this one felt so accurate a reading I kind of want to talk to people about it. Overall it seems to be saying I’m almost but not quite ready for something new and I need to find my inner flirt - and my confidence - to learn how to engage with at least some sexual energy again (this was never my strong point anyway). Grateful for your thoughts and interpretations, I’m still very unsure of myself 🙂
katrinka Posted October 7, 2019 Posted October 7, 2019 Could you tell us exactly what your question was? That would make it possible to put the cards in context. As an aside - why do you feel the need to "engage with at least some sexual energy" at this point? You met a guy online. You met up. The idea, if you're looking for anything more than a quick hookup, is to hang out and spend time figuring out if you actually like each other. In person, not via text. And not just once. Weeks, better yet, months. And it's normally the man's job to suggest meeting up again. That's not to say a woman can't or shouldn't, but it's not your social obligation. Being "too scared to be flirty" was probably your instincts. Listen to them.
stephanelli Posted October 7, 2019 Posted October 7, 2019 Hi there @Brellaella Unfortunately this post sits in the wrong area, but to move it to the right area you need to have 5 posts. (I'd suggest perhaps making an introduction post as a great way to start!) I've temporarily locked this thread, when you've got your 5 posts, send a PM to myself or one of the other moderators and we'll get it moved for you!
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