Q-Tip

[Bodhiseed]

Here's an Al-Anon concept that I remind myself of frequently ;):

 

Q-TIP

QUIT - TAKING - IT – PERSONALLY

 

“Most of the time, we are bit players in other people’s dramas.”

~ Rick Hansen

 

“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering… Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore you don’t need to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally.”

~ Miguel Ruiz

 

“If we are honest with ourselves, we have to admit that sometimes our assumptions and preconceived notions are wrong, and therefore, our interpretation of events is incorrect. This causes us to overreact, to take things personally, or to judge people unfairly”.

~ Elizabeth Thornton

 

“All people face unexpected upheavals in their lives. My “Why me?” refrain was a distorted view of the human condition.” ~ Toni Bernhard

 

“Who you become on your journey is far more meaningful than what happens to you.” ~ Christine Kane

 

[EmpyreanKnight]

This reminds me of Chin-Ning Chu's ruthless manual, Thick Face, Black Heart

 

And also of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k, the bestselling book by Mark Manson which many of you may have already heard of. I have a copy but I haven't read it yet.

[Trogon]

Love this! Thanks Bodhiseed!

 

It put me in mind of the Happy Squirrel card in Kat Black's Touchstone Tarot. Essentially; "don't take yourself so seriously." But I also think of it in much the same light as this "Q-TIP". People are going to do what they want and you can't take it personally.

 

Hard advice to follow sometimes though ...

[Emilija]

Very helpful. This makes me feel better about going to work tonight. Thank you.

[Bodhiseed]

You're both very welcome. It has been useful to remind myself that everyone has a story behind their actions and attitudes of which I'm often unaware. Making a charitable assumption rather than a resentful judgment helps my serenity and sanity in the long run! ;D

[Flaxen]

Thanks for this! It's something I really struggle with - I care far too much about what other people think of me and then impose limitations on myself because of it. Not just with close friends and family but people I've never met!

 

I think I'll pin one of those quotes somewhere i can see it every day.

[Esk]

I really like this concept and it's a good idea to share it and makes us remember it.

It reminds me of The 4 agreements of Miguel Ruiz. You quoted him in your post. A very very interesting and enlightening book. I recomend it to everyone!!

[Starlight]

It reminds me of that (Polish?) saying, "Not my circus, not my monkeys!" - something you can say when there's some drama going on around you that you just don't want to get embroiled in.

[Saturn Celeste]

Here's an Al-Anon concept that I remind myself of frequently ;):

 

Q-TIP

QUIT - TAKING - IT – PERSONALLY

Oh this is so true!  I was a schoolbus driver for 9 years and early on came to this conclusion.  When dealing with kids I always objectively looked at their problems as their problems, not me trying to insert myself into their life.

[EmpyreanKnight]

It's definitely something to take to heart for the new year.