sunflower203 Posted September 28, 2020 Posted September 28, 2020 Hi All, I hope you are well and staying safe :) I have a question! I am new to tarot and had a reading a few days about asking if my ex was going to come back into my life. The answer was 'likely'. Since this reading we had an argument where we blocked each other off everything- so there is no form of communication. Does this mean that the tarot reading has changed now and wont be the same answer? should i ask the question again? Thank you :)
Guest Posted September 28, 2020 Posted September 28, 2020 3 hours ago, sunflower203 said: Hi All, I hope you are well and staying safe 🙂 I have a question! I am new to tarot and had a reading a few days about asking if my ex was going to come back into my life. The answer was 'likely'. Since this reading we had an argument where we blocked each other off everything- so there is no form of communication. Does this mean that the tarot reading has changed now and wont be the same answer? should i ask the question again? Thank you 🙂 Hi @sunflower203 There are no rules on how many times (or how frequently) one can ask a question. It comes down to common sense.If you ask the same question, several times a week, the cards will answer. However you might find a disconnect in their response. If the situation has changed then the question changes, too. If it has not, the question itself remains unchanged. Your situation may have changed. The issue is without the cards, we cannot ascertain if the original cards foreshadowed this change. So perhaps asking whether this new rupture is permanent might be best?
stephanelli Posted September 29, 2020 Posted September 29, 2020 20 hours ago, sunflower203 said: Hi All, I hope you are well and staying safe 🙂 I have a question! I am new to tarot and had a reading a few days about asking if my ex was going to come back into my life. The answer was 'likely'. Since this reading we had an argument where we blocked each other off everything- so there is no form of communication. Does this mean that the tarot reading has changed now and wont be the same answer? should i ask the question again? Thank you 🙂 Hiya, welcome to the forum and to tarot. My personal opinion, and what I follow in my own reasons, is that I won't ask a question again until either a significant amount of time has passed (minimum of half a year usually personally) or the situation or energy around the situation has changed significantly. In your case here, I would say the energy has changed so I would be happy to read again on it if it were me. On a non-tarot note, it may be wise to think about the reasons you want this ex back in your life. Are they worth the trouble you're going to or is it just gonna hurt you again? There is no right answer except what your heart tells you, we don't know the exact situation obviously, and you don't even have to answer the question here. Just some unsolicited advice.
Decan Posted September 29, 2020 Posted September 29, 2020 To ask the cards just one time should be enough. But when we are confused about something, we ask the cards and at times think that the cards aren't clear enough, so we are tempted to ask again. Actually I don't know if the cards aren't clear enough; we can think that the cards say "maybe" at times but after a while (when we have the answer) if we look again the first spread we pulled we can think: finally my first spread answered my question pretty clearly, but I emphazised too much on this or that card when I interpreted them. It's something that happened to me often for personal questions where I'm not emotionally detached enough and influence somehow things (what I want to see in the cards). It's probably something usual for a lot of people.
gregory Posted September 29, 2020 Posted September 29, 2020 I was going to say only ask again if things have changed. But - they are still in your life if you managed to have an argument, so the question falls anyway. They were in your life already. I would ask a different question - depending on what you really want to know. If it's basically just curiosity - sure, ask if you will be back together again. If it's that you want them back, something more like "what can I do to repair this relationship" would be more appropriate. Because you cannot change someone else, only yourself.
sunflower203 Posted September 29, 2020 Author Posted September 29, 2020 (edited) thank you all! Over the past few days I have realised that he probably not the best person for me. However sometimes the head and heart tell you the complete opposite even though you know which one you should be following! (head in this case) I am just struggling what question to ask this time- as prior like i said i asked if my ex was going to come back into my life- and it was likely. However i can say hands up i instigated the argument ! Which led to being blocked off everything. I am now just curious to see if he will come back into my life at a later stage.. Edited September 29, 2020 by sunflower203
gregory Posted September 29, 2020 Posted September 29, 2020 As I said before - he was IN your life if you were able to argue with him. How about "What do I need to know about this relationship ?"
TheFeeLion Posted September 29, 2020 Posted September 29, 2020 I wholeheartedly agree with that @gregory has said. Asking if someone will come back into your life is a really ambiguous question! Have you ever heard of storied about genies that take a wish request and twist it into something that wasn't intended by person who made the wish? It's like asking for a million bucks and getting a million male deer instead. Your question can be taken many ways! I think what's needed here is a change of question (like has already been suggested). Maybe change the focus to yourself and find out what course you should take to find what is good for you?
gregory Posted September 30, 2020 Posted September 30, 2020 By the way - until you have 5 posts you may not post a reading for comment - this whole thread should be in another area anyway - it's not exactly a current event.
fire cat pickles Posted September 30, 2020 Posted September 30, 2020 If you steer clear of non-yes/no questions then the issue of asking the same question may fall away completely. It sort of forces you to ask more well-formulated questions like gregory suggests. Tarot works best when you ask questions such as "What do I need to know about this relationship?" This will then bring you around to non-tarot related issues that stephanelli has suggested, do you really need such-and-such energies back into your life, etc.
stephanelli Posted September 30, 2020 Posted September 30, 2020 Can't believe I missed this was in thewrong section! @sunflower203, I've moved this into the right section, this message is just to ping you so you can find it again.
Guest Posted September 30, 2020 Posted September 30, 2020 On 9/29/2020 at 9:31 AM, Decan said: To ask the cards just one time should be enough. But when we are confused about something, we ask the cards and at times think that the cards aren't clear enough, so we are tempted to ask again. Actually I don't know if the cards aren't clear enough; we can think that the cards say "maybe" at times but after a while (when we have the answer) if we look again the first spread we pulled we can think: finally my first spread answered my question pretty clearly, but I emphazised too much on this or that card when I interpreted them. It's something that happened to me often for personal questions where I'm not emotionally detached enough and influence somehow things (what I want to see in the cards). It's probably something usual for a lot of people. 100 % agree. I am a firm believer that the cards are never wrong or unclear. It is the reader that is.
sunflower203 Posted September 30, 2020 Author Posted September 30, 2020 Thank you all - Sorry i didn't realise it was, I am very new to all this as you can probably tell ahha,
sunflower203 Posted October 2, 2020 Author Posted October 2, 2020 Hi All, Thank you for all your help and clarity. I had another reading and chose the question that @gregory suggested - "What do I need to know about this relationship ?" I was surprised with what came back but also not due to my gut intuition. This leads to my next question. Is there such thing as an 'expiry' date on readings?
gregory Posted October 2, 2020 Posted October 2, 2020 How do you mean ? Things in your life can change so much that the reading is no longer relevant, for instance.If, for instance, the object of your affection drops dead after you asked if he would ever marry you, and the cards had said wait and see - well, all of a sudden you have your answer.
Grandma Posted October 2, 2020 Posted October 2, 2020 1 hour ago, gregory said: If, for instance, the object of your affection drops dead after you asked if he would ever marry you, and the cards had said wait and see - well, all of a sudden you have your answer. My what a cheerful example!
TheLoracular Posted October 3, 2020 Posted October 3, 2020 14 hours ago, sunflower203 said: I had another reading and chose the question that @gregory suggested - "What do I need to know about this relationship ?" I was surprised with what came back but also not due to my gut intuition. This leads to my next question. Is there such thing as an 'expiry' date on readings? I think the hardest part to self-readings is asking the right questions. For example, its a great idea to have a time frame in mind before you ask a question but not too specifically. I read somewhere that you should try and seek answers to questions that don't go more than a year in the future. I prefer to try for just a month but never shorter than a week unless its a 1 card "what should I focus on today?". So "If I try to do X, will Y happen October and why or why not?" is the kind of question I am likely to ask for myself and then I write it all down in my tarot journal. At the end of the month, I write down a summary of what actually happened and then consider that reading over. So there's a good example of an expiration date.
gregory Posted October 3, 2020 Posted October 3, 2020 11 hours ago, Grandma said: My what a cheerful example! But telling, don't you agree ? I was determined to give an example that COULD not be turned around to say "but then again maybe when..." as SO MANY obvious answers seem to be manipulated to suit the reader. I do have a particular series in mind, involving a man who will clearly NEVER leave his wife for the hopeful woman who is SURE he will, even though the cards say not EVERY TIME... 5 hours ago, TheLoracular said: I think the hardest part to self-readings is asking the right questions. For example, its a great idea to have a time frame in mind before you ask a question but not too specifically. I read somewhere that you should try and seek answers to questions that don't go more than a year in the future. I don't read for myself for exactly this kind of reason.
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