Opinions on cutting the cord between you and your soulmate

[Bluangel27]

Hey everyone, 

 

I think this a spirituality question.

 

What are your opinions of cutting cords with your soulmate? 

[gregory]

As I don't believe in soulmates, I see no difference between that and cutting links with anyone important to you in your life. IT can be damaging; it can be liberating; it depends entirely on why you are doing it.

[FindYourSovereignty]

I participate in an annual self-love activity where I cut cords with everyone. I release all past commitments that were left unmet, that are unhealthy or detrimental to my life creation. After the meditation I choose who gets to be added back into my space immediately. Others may get added back in over time or not at all. 

[Wyrdkiss]

On 4/19/2023 at 12:59 AM, gregory said:

As I don't believe in soulmates, I see no difference between that and cutting links with anyone important to you in your life. IT can be damaging; it can be liberating; it depends entirely on why you are doing it.

you beat me to it Gregory. 

[Wyrdkiss]

On 4/19/2023 at 4:40 AM, FindYourSovereignty said:

I participate in an annual self-love activity where I cut cords with everyone. I release all past commitments that were left unmet, that are unhealthy or detrimental to my life creation. After the meditation I choose who gets to be added back into my space immediately. Others may get added back in over time or not at all. 

This is really admirable, I like the concept a lot.

[FindYourSovereignty]

14 hours ago, Wyrdkiss said:

This is really admirable, I like the concept a lot.

At first I was a little nervous about it - felt odd to disconnect myself from my children and grandchildren for example, yet, the return is tremendous. I have come to really value the practice. Helps me to recognize that we are all truly here for our own journey no matter how entwined or connected our lives are. 

[Wyrdkiss]

1 hour ago, FindYourSovereignty said:

At first I was a little nervous about it - felt odd to disconnect myself from my children and grandchildren for example, yet, the return is tremendous. I have come to really value the practice. Helps me to recognize that we are all truly here for our own journey no matter how entwined or connected our lives are. 

I'm curious about your ritual process, if you care to share via PM or here. I would like to juxtapose it with what I would choose to do.

[peacewing]

I don't believe in soul mates per say, but more like soul groups. This is all super personal and individualized spiritual journey stuff, but I do believe that we make something like a 'soul contract' (Check out Caroline Myss, she has a pretty interesting book on the topic), to be with a soul cohort, something like that. It's no accident that we are here in the cultures that we are in, with the family and friends around us, and the people we encounter. I do believe that every experience in life is a lesson, or we are meant to be the teacher for someone else's lesson. Or maybe both. 

 

Anyway, about the question: sometimes that's what you need to do for your own health/sake/existence/etc. Maybe that's why this person is in your life - to help you learn to cut cords, find a strength/courage inside of yourself, etc. In a less spiritual sense - for your own mental/emotional/physical health, sometimes cutting someone off/going no contact is the best thing that you can do for yourself. Realizing that you need to cut a cord is a really big step forward, and it takes a lot of inner... stuff. Strength, self awareness, etc. Actually doing it is a very brave thing, to understand that it's okay to say "no", have a hard boundary, and to work for your own highest good. Sometimes you need to be a little 'selfish'. 

[Wyrdkiss]

3 minutes ago, peacewing said:

I don't believe in soul mates per say, but more like soul groups. This is all super personal and individualized spiritual journey stuff, but I do believe that we make something like a 'soul contract' (Check out Caroline Myss, she has a pretty interesting book on the topic), to be with a soul cohort, something like that. It's no accident that we are here in the cultures that we are in, with the family and friends around us, and the people we encounter. I do believe that every experience in life is a lesson, or we are meant to be the teacher for someone else's lesson. Or maybe both. 

 

Anyway, about the question: sometimes that's what you need to do for your own health/sake/existence/etc. Maybe that's why this person is in your life - to help you learn to cut cords, find a strength/courage inside of yourself, etc. In a less spiritual sense - for your own mental/emotional/physical health, sometimes cutting someone off/going no contact is the best thing that you can do for yourself. Realizing that you need to cut a cord is a really big step forward, and it takes a lot of inner... stuff. Strength, self awareness, etc. Actually doing it is a very brave thing, to understand that it's okay to say "no", have a hard boundary, and to work for your own highest good. Sometimes you need to be a little 'selfish'. 

This was a lovely and considerate response to the original post.  I read Myss when I was young and it had a definitive resonance with me. I like to think of my "cadre", my deepest relations, as people I have traversed many lives with.

And, as other books on the topic do, personal choice -- being fully unbound and empowered to end any "agreement" one may have at any time, is a necessity IMO. 

[Juperko]

It's not easy and it's a painful process. The first step is to cut off contact in the outer physical world. Which is much easier than getting rid of it on an inner level. Even though you will go strict no contact you can obsess about person long time after. It takes a lot of inner work. 

[MuninnMissinHuginn]

This is a question for clarification to all who have responded to this question of “Cutting the Cord”.

 

The cutting off of contact in the physical world is rather straight forward.

 

Cutting cords within, what does the end — the  successful “cutting” — look like?  Is it looking back at the past without fear, hate, anger, embarrassment, longing, regret, guilt, or other problematic feelings?  Is it getting to the point where one does not think about the other person at all?  Does it mean all that history has no importance any more?  

[Juperko]

36 minutes ago, MuninnMissinHuginn said:

Cutting cords within, what does the end — the  successful “cutting” — look like?  Is it looking back at the past without fear, hate, anger, embarrassment, longing, regret, guilt, or other problematic feelings?  Is it getting to the point where one does not think about the other person at all?  Does it mean all that history has no importance any more?  

Yes I think is exactly like that. It means indifference.  You have still some opinion about that person because you know them. But your emotions are no longer involved. The person has no power over you. You don't even care if their are in a new relationship. It is the past. 

[MuninnMissinHuginn]

1 hour ago, juperko said:

Yes I think is exactly like that. It means indifference

Thank you for answering. So do you think this would also apply to “cutting the cord” from people who are no longer alive? Where the relationship was not romantic but there are still problematic emotions?

Edited April 23, 2023 by MuninnMissinHuginn

[FindYourSovereignty]

On 4/22/2023 at 12:42 PM, Wyrdkiss said:

I'm curious about your ritual process, if you care to share via PM or here. I would like to juxtapose it with what I would choose to do.

I cannot say enough wonderful things about this activity. The meditation is in a 40 Days to Self Love program at SiriusJoy.com. It is the first activity of the 49 Days. Although the service is a monthly membership based around astrology, you need not know anything at all about astrology nor do you need to even practice it. The first month is a trial rate of only $3.99. 

 

3 hours ago, MuninnMissinHuginn said:

Cutting cords within, what does the end — the  successful “cutting” — look like?  Is it looking back at the past without fear, hate, anger, embarrassment, longing, regret, guilt, or other problematic feelings?  Is it getting to the point where one does not think about the other person at all?  Does it mean all that history has no importance any more?  

For me it cuts off all energetic cords to that person or event. It includes freeing myself from any past commitments, known or unknown to that person or relationship. It is about eliminating any attachments, past, present, future, and embracing my independence, my individual soul journey. It is quite freeing.

 

1 hour ago, MuninnMissinHuginn said:

So do you think this would also apply to “cutting the cord” from people who are no longer alive? Where the relationship was not romantic but there are still problematic emotions?

Yes, without question. This involves all energetic attachments from any direction of time and space, IMO. All energy that has been carried forward in any capacity can be disconnected and sent back to Mother Gaia or to the sender with love for transformation and healing. 

[MuninnMissinHuginn]

@FindYourSovereignty,

Thank you for your answers.  It will still take some time to bend my mind around letting go, it feels to much a loss, even the negatives. 

[Wyrdkiss]

I wonder if we lost the original poster.  @Bluangel27 is this discussion helpful?

[DanielJUK]

They are still a member of the forum but haven't been back since posting this interesting topic. Hope you come back to this discussion when you next log in @Bluangel27 🙂

[FindYourSovereignty]

2 hours ago, MuninnMissinHuginn said:

Thank you for your answers.  It will still take some time to bend my mind around letting go, it feels to much a loss, even the negatives.

You are most welcome. The interesting thing I learned while participating in the 40 Days of Self-Love practice was that the people don’t necessarily have to leave your life or never be in your energy field again. Just the negative energy isn’t allowed back in, the commitments and expectations (I consider these attachments) are no longer part of the connection. This goes both ways. If someone violated my trust and I allow them back into my energy field I can no longer hold that against them, but I also have to be strong enough in my self-love to have a boundary of not allowing that violation to happen again. It is a work in progress for sure. 
 

You’ll know when and if this is a practice that is correct for you. 

[Bluangel27]

I get all the replies sent to my e-mail. I just have been reading all of them.  I just haven't had the time to respond.

 

Some of you are helping that believe in soulmates and soul groups. They are different for me than other people that aren't spiritually my family. I don't have astral dreams before I meet the person, if we don't have a soul connection. 

 

I just want to be indifferent from within, I already distanced myself by unfollowing them on social media. 

[Bluangel27]

Also, can somebody explain to me how to reply to specific replies on the thread? I'm still new here and I don't know how to do that yet. lol. 

[joy]

20 minutes ago, Bluangel27 said:

Also, can somebody explain to me how to reply to specific replies on the thread? I'm still new here and I don't know how to do that yet. lol. 

Hey @Bluangel27 there are two ways:

- click on ‘quote’ below a post to quote and reply

- use the @ sign and the start typing the user name until it shows up, the select it

hope that makes sense.

[DanielJUK]

sure @Bluangel27

under every post there is a + and also quote button. You can press quote and it will quote that one post in the text box. The + button will let you do multiple posts to quote. If you want to quote every post here, + the ones you want (later it will put them in the text input box in the order you select them). When you have the number of posts you want, you will see a "quote (number) posts" button on the bottom right hand corner floating. When you press it, it will paste them into the input box in the order you chose them. Then you can reply to the quotes under each box 🙂

 

 

[joy]

Just now, DanielJUK said:

sure @Bluangel27

under every post there is a + and also quote button. You can press quote and it will quote that one post in the text box. The + button will let you do multiple posts to quote. If you want to quote every post here, + the ones you want (later it will put them in the text input box in the order you select them). When you have the number of posts you want, you will see a "quote (number) posts" button on the bottom right hand corner floating. When you press it, it will paste them into the input box in the order you chose them. Then you can reply to the quotes under each box 🙂

 

 

We posted at the same time 🤪😊💜🙏🏼💜

[DanielJUK]

That's the efficiency here 😉

[Grandma]

Don't forget that you can quote just part of a post if that's what you are responding to. Highlight the part you want to quote and click the quote button that appears. It makes more sense than quoting a whole long comment, sometimes even including pictures, when you just want to respond to one specific point.