thornapple Posted January 30, 2024 Posted January 30, 2024 I saw this question on another site and would like to hear your thoughts on this. If 10 of Cups comes up in a spread for you as "something to let go of" or "cut off", how do you plan on interpreting this or breaking the news to the querent?
DanielJUK Posted January 30, 2024 Posted January 30, 2024 For me, it's a need for letting go of perfection in the emotional area of our lives. Getting a long-term partnership / married and a family and a home, isn't like a Disney movie. Life isn't happily ever after in reality, it's a constant journey. I'm not married but from those I know who are, say it needs constant work, you grow and change, maybe at different times. It's not like the perfect family who go to a party in the street, the children might be screaming, one parent might have a migraine, our lives are more like a rollercoaster! We have to find harmony and a way of dealing with the peaks and troughs of life. Happiness and emotional contentment isn't the perfect picture of your lives that you show to others but it's fleeting and comes at random times and might be short-lived. So trying to have that perfect contentment image is something to let go of. I don't know anyone in reality who is and there is a lot of pressure to be that "perfect" home or family! Life is too complicated and stressful already to add that pressure on it as well! No need to conform or be like everyone else, just find the emotional happiness when it comes your way.
thornapple Posted January 31, 2024 Author Posted January 31, 2024 @DanielJUK I agree! I think that the main point is to let go of an idealized version of happiness because it will get in the way of real happiness. We're not supposed to measure ourselves up to arbitrary milestones to gauge our happiness. Also, I think it might be a reminder that one is enforcing 'toxic positivity' on their present circumstances and convincing themselves that life is perfect/happy, and refusing to see that there are genuinely hurtful and damaging elements around them because they've focused on the idealized requirements for a perfect life. I've known a lot of people who insist that everything's okay when their relationships are falling apart because they're able to uphold certain standards. Letting go of such a mentality isn't easy when you've fallen in deep, unfortunately.
Sar Posted January 31, 2024 Posted January 31, 2024 On 1/30/2024 at 12:59 PM, thornapple said: I saw this question on another site and would like to hear your thoughts on this. If 10 of Cups comes up in a spread for you as "something to let go of" or "cut off", how do you plan on interpreting this or breaking the news to the querent? The illusion of the perfect relationship, perfect children, perfect job, perfect homelife needs to go.
Yola Posted February 2, 2024 Posted February 2, 2024 (edited) Interesting question! I would also think about: - Abandon utopias, idealizations, overestimated expectations, false promises. - The incessant search for an ideal of happiness. - Cut off emotional dependence with the family of origin. For example, someone needs to 'disconnect' from their parents in order to build their own family. - Excessive family participation. Something where, for example, parents can harm a son's relationship. Or vice versa, when the son interferes in the couple’s relationship. - Abandon hope. Where, for example, there is hope of getting back together with your ex when there is no turning back. - A heteronormative idea of society. - The compulsive need to keep looking for prodigies and signs from the universe. I hope it's useful! Edited February 2, 2024 by Yola
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