What Is Your Favorite Kind of Sitter?

[RickInBakersfield]

Is it the first-time sitter?

Is it the very experienced person that has had many readings before?

Is it the sitter who is "with it".

Is it someone who has a common type of question i.e. love, career & money etc.

Is it someone who has a very difficult question to address?

Is it someone who is skeptical about tarot readings?

Is it someone who has been to a fortune teller i.e. a Gypsie House?

Is it doing couples readings?

Is it a sitter who is very young or old?

 

You get the idea.

 

 

What is your favorite kind of sitter? And why?

 

My favorite is when I don't know somebody's question and I know they have a question on their mind.

 

Rick-

 

Edited November 15, 2024 by RickInBakersfield
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[dancing_moon]

My personal favorite is probably the open-minded one. Interested to know the answers but not obsessed about particular outcomes. Willing to consider that the truth might not be what they imagined or hoped it to be. 

[Misterei]

I dislke reading for skeptics or very closed people.

My favorite type is genuinely interested in spirituality and have a practice like meditate, do yoga, or martial arts  I enjoy to explore the deeper meanings of the cards with people who can process that type of information.

[RickInBakersfield]

13 minutes ago, Misterei said:

I dislke reading for skeptics or very closed people.

 

I would guess skeptics get tarot readings for entertainment purposes only. Otherwise, why would they have a reading done?

[Raggydoll]

6 hours ago, RickInBakersfield said:

I would guess skeptics get tarot readings for entertainment purposes only. Otherwise, why would they have a reading done?

Sometimes it’s desperation or that they want to try all avenues. And sometimes they’ve been recommended a reader by someone, but they aren’t sure if they fully buy into it, yet they decide to try it out. I haven’t had any that come for purely entertainment purposes. 

[Raggydoll]

My preference is for friendly people 🙂

[Misterei]

13 hours ago, RickInBakersfield said:

I would guess skeptics get tarot readings for entertainment purposes only. Otherwise, why would they have a reading done?

I suppose I've never actually read a pure skeptic. I heard a story from a friend who who brought cards to a party / gathering. She's not a professional so she did it for the experience and wasn't charging. She was asked to read by a skeptic who wanted her to *prove* something. Kinda ruined the party for her. This is why I seldom to never read for free. A trade, maybe, but never gratis. A true skeptic prolly isn't going to pay for a reading just so they can debunk it.

 

The closest thing to a true skeptic I've had was a client who refused to dialog and got angry when I tried. She seemed suspicious that I was somehow trying to trick her. She asked about her son, and I got Temperance which made me ask if he had any chemical imbalance. She told me he struggled with bi-polar but then demanded I just tell her what would happen and not ask any more questions. Yuck.

 

Anyway, this went from favorite type of client to least favorite. So I'll stop here b/c I could go on.

Really, they're all my favorites except when they're not 😇

[gregory]

My preference is for people who actually - want a reading. Not people who want to test me. Not people who wonder if it works. Not people whose friends laid bets. Not people who look for verification of what they want you to say. Not people who already know what you have to say. Just people who want an actual reading. Why would any other sitter be in any way OK ?

[JoyousGirl]

Well, I might throw a spanner in the works here.

 

My inner knowing (that may often be overridden by social and other programming) is that everyone that I see in the world around me is an aspect of me. I don't want to put labels on people because people come to us that are curious or need help, or come to us because they are divinely directed - whether they're aware of it or not- to get on a spiritual path or learning journey of some sort, or whatever else the divine purpose is. We are the person they've come to for the same reason.

 

For example, I've been to readers who didn't read and when asking why I went to them the answer was because I should trust my own intuition.

 

Anyway, my favourite sitter is the one who comes to me in the first place, and who I actually help in some way.

 

 

Edited November 16, 2024 by JoyousGirl

[FindYourSovereignty]

My favorite sitter is the engaged one - wanting to participate in the reading 

 

 

[FindYourSovereignty]

19 hours ago, RickInBakersfield said:

I would guess skeptics get tarot readings for entertainment purposes only. Otherwise, why would they have a reading done?

I think there are many reasons why, one being that they want to prove they are right not to believe. Even more than that though, I think they are secretly hopeful.

 

Since I also believe people are mirrors for us, I think they are a test of our own resolve - do we believe and can we stand by our belief? Is there something I am testing in my life that needs a closer look?

[Morwenna]

On 11/16/2024 at 11:30 AM, Misterei said:

 

The closest thing to a true skeptic I've had was a client who refused to dialog and got angry when I tried. She seemed suspicious that I was somehow trying to trick her. She asked about her son, and I got Temperance which made me ask if he had any chemical imbalance. She told me he struggled with bi-polar but then demanded I just tell her what would happen and not ask any more questions. Yuck.

 

I feel that such clients have been warned too many times against scammers or "cold readers." Such scammers give honest readers a bad name--without cooperative input from the client, how is a reader supposed to be of help? In a way it's like therapy; a therapist can't do anything unless the client is forthcoming. 

[RickInBakersfield]

What about the first-time sitter?

 

Do you explain to them just HOW a tarot reading works from your POV? Before the reading starts.

 

Do you tell them what to expect, or you go right into the reading?

 

[Morwenna]

Trying to remember--I did explain a little; there was always certain things I would say. 

[Raggydoll]

7 hours ago, RickInBakersfield said:

Do you explain to them just HOW a tarot reading works from your POV? Before the reading starts.

 

No, I would not automatically tell them how I believe tarot works or the history of tarot etc - unless they had specific questions 

 

7 hours ago, RickInBakersfield said:

 

Do you tell them what to expect, or you go right into the reading?

If they want to know. Not everyone does.
 

I have had multiple sitters that did not want to know details. One sitter in particular was not sure they even wanted to look at the cards (this was a real life reading), they just wanted to know what type of question they could ask and how long the reading might take. I told them that they could choose what felt best. So I ended up doing the reading while they were laying down on the couch, just listening to my interpretations. They were very pleased with that.

 

I have had other sitters too, that basically said “I don’t need to know what the cards were, just what the answer is”. Those type of sitters tend to not have a preference for whether I use a tool or do a psychic session, they just want to know the answer. Often, they have been academic individuals who had no interest in woo-woo but still believed in the abilities of certain people. So it wouldn’t have made sense to give them a lecture on tarot. On the contrary, some of them showed signs of being uncomfortable with the thought of having too much explained to them.
 

Some will also have heard that I can do readings without tools, so perhaps they don’t put much emphasis on the tool? I don’t know if this is typical for other readers or what type of sitters they have. But I always try to pay attention to what the individual sitter wants or expects. I very rarely do real life readings for someone that has an interesting in tarot. At most they might be curious, but typically they just want the help of a ‘spådam’ (spae woman, or ‘seer’) and they are mostly interested in what I can tell them. On the internet though, it is different and I will often receive such questions as you mention. And then I will of course answer and explain 🙂

[Misterei]

On 11/17/2024 at 8:31 PM, Morwenna said:

I feel that such clients have been warned too many times against scammers or "cold readers." ...

... without cooperative input from the client, how is a reader supposed to be of help?

Yes, I actually post on my website that clients should expect to DIALOG during the reading. 99% of the time any prospective client who's not comfortable with dialog will self select to a different reader. Then there's that 1% who don't read the website and just hit the BUY button. 🙄

20 hours ago, RickInBakersfield said:

What about the first-time sitter?

Do you explain to them just HOW a tarot reading works from your POV? Before the reading starts.

Do you tell them what to expect, or you go right into the reading?

I give them a general idea what to expect and let them know its ok to ask questions if they don't understand something. But I don't get into anything technical about HOW tarot works unless they ask.

[Lovebird]

I have people that I have known for years.. That ask me for readings often , I like them the most, because it feels like we have a connection already,  (I enjoy the familiarity feeling) it's nice to know how they have been, that they give me feedback about the previous readings, how the events unfolded for them, how the readings help them, those are the best ones for me 🩵. 

Also the ones that are a bit skeptic, and then end up returning saying how the reading was accurate. ☺️

 

 

Edited March 31 by Lovebird