Tarot Readings, Insights, Common Sense

[Starlight]

I read through the Forum rules but couldn't find what I was looking for, so I'm posting here for advice/suggestions.

 

I think it was on the old AT site, in reading exchanges (and in threads where a reader was looking for insight on cards they drew), there was a rule about feedback needing to relate solely to the interpretation of the cards, and not to wander over into the realm of non-card-related advice.

 

There isn't such a rule here (as far as I could see) but my AT days have conditioned me. lol

 

Having said that, what should one do if they see that reading cards in a particular situation isn't the best way to approach things? Given that we're all online and really don't know what a situation is like apart from what a member chooses to share.

 

If I think I'll risk wandering into the realm of unsolicited advice, I just won't leave feedback on a thread, but it has left me wondering where's the line between behaving responsibly towards other members while not offering unsolicited advice, do you know what I mean? 🤔

Edited May 7, 2019 by Starlight
Clarity

[Raggydoll]

We do not forbid unsolicited advice, if it’s in the spirit of genuine concern. Being judgmental or opinionated on other people’s choices is obviously not allowed but I get that this is not what you are asking about here. I would say that you can present your thoughts in a way that makes it clear that it’s not related to what the cards said, or the original question. As long as no one is being pushy or really out of line with their advice then it should be fine (I’m not suggesting you would be, just answering in a general way 💖). I have myself given unsolicited advice a couple of times, mainly as to say that there are circumstances when we might not be in the right frame of mind to read cards for ourselves. 

[DanielJUK]

I think people post their readings to either a/ get help as they are learning or b/ get advice. It isn't unsolicited advice though, by posting their issue and situation and the reading they are soliciting advice. I know there is a red line somewhere here but the forum (just like on AT) is a caring, supportive community. The advice (beyond the reading suggested advice) tends to be supportive. There is a line here obviously and people who are obviously posting for health or legal advice from a non professional perspective are closed down by the moderators. A lot of people post their advice from their experiences, often people have been through the same thing and give their insight, I love seeing that happen.

 

I don't remember that rule on AT in feedback but there was a very interesting thread I once read there about the idea of advice and giving what is not shown up in the reading. You have to becareful of that if you are replying for sure. Someone asks about relationships and the reading clearly shows they get back together and then the poster says, dump them, get away! That is clearly not right! But I think the readings that are posted are like problem pages, people looking for advice, help, support. Ultimately we have to frame it for free will and choice, give them options that help or advise.

[fire cat pickles]

If I have a comment outside of the card reading, and it isn't uncommon for me to do so, I always  put a disclaimer with it preceded by a comment that says "off-card". It will be a short comment so that it is clear. It isn't much, but it is very clear to the person I'm speaking to.

 

 

Of course, with others I'm sure this would be a bit blurred. I mean, with reading styles, how would you differentiate between off-card advice and "unsolicited" advice, particularly, when the reading style leans more toward the intuitive rather than the traditional? I would think it would nearly impossible. Having a rule to prohibit it would cripple a lot of readers and would be completely unfair, I think.

[gregory]

I think advice to do something other than read on it is one thing- e.g. "should I see my doctor for vomiting blood" - I wouldn't comment on the cards; I'd say get thee to a doctor.

 

I think general advice on an actual situation when a reading is posted is OT and not OK  -as in "should I see my doctor for vomiting blood" - "There's a really good herbal remedy for that, here's a link." OK a medical example wasn't ideal, but it holds up as well for "I think my husband is cheating" where the person commenting says "ditch him" without commenting on the cards. I think responses need to relate to the cards if they are saying anything other than "don't read on this, look at alternatives." Or - as I sometimes do, when they pull a CC for a single question like "should we have steak for dinner" I will say "I can't comment - there are far too many cards for this."

 

We do have a chatter room for simple advice questions. And AT did have a rule that comments on a posted reading needed to relate to the cards, though it was OK to ADD your own personal off the cards take - but definitely as an add-on.

Edited May 7, 2019 by gregory

[Starlight]

Thank you, everyone, @Raggydoll, @DanielJUK, @fire cat pickles, @gregory, for your replies. I think I was being a bit too strict in the content of my feedback, and you've all made good points about the caring nature of this community, about why members post their readings here in the first place, as well as where you see the line being sensibly and reasonably drawn. 

 

It's a bit of a relief to know that what I thought was unsolicited advice isn't actually unwelcome provided the intention behind it is a healthy one. As has been suggested, I will introduce any non-card-related feedback as such: personal experience not related to the cards. Because yes, intuition is a big part of card-reading, and also this IS a caring community (which is why I spend a lot of my downtime here! 😊) and so we want what's best for each other. And perhaps our experience can help someone else.

 

Thank you all again. You've been a great help. 💕

 

 

[AnomalyTempest]

I will sometimes do this but in a PM. Usually along the lines of, Hey, this doesn't really have to do with your reading but I thought of... and I thought it could be useful for you.

[Starlight]

Thanks, @AnomalyTempest.  I do sometimes message members, usually if I have built up some sort of a relationship with them on the boards first. I suppose I prefer to keep my communications with new people out in the open as part of the general conversation on the thread. Messaging them feels a bit more like the non-virtual equivalent of meeting up for coffee and a chat.  🙂 But yes, messaging is definitely a useful way to share something personal and more experiential. Thank you. 🙂